let me know if any other disabled people can relate--
but sometimes it's really hard to feel okay taking up space as a disabled/chronically ill person in society. like, asking for accommodations feels so much worse or way more daunting than it really should be
and sometimes i get comfortable enough to carve out my own space, i have other spoonie friends and we all hype each other up-- but i also have not disabled friends
and i was talking to one of these friends the other day (after a couple of already blatantly difficult days for me might i add) and i said something, forgive me i can't remember what because what happened next sent me reeling, but my friend looked at me and said--
"you know, sometimes it's really hard to be around you. because everything becomes difficult."
--and i froze. because this is a person that has repeatedly told me to be honest with them. that is always trying to push for me to be accommodated. and then... that? so my comfort around them is suddenly precarious and i don't know how to proceed with them, but my gut says hold firm in who i am and how i behave
so for my fellow disabled people-- reminder to you that it is okay to be a human in society that exists and takes up space. you do not need to diminish yourself for the comfort of others
