#holdonto

[thetaillessbymjain]

Brothers, cousins, friends, siblings or tribe A wild and lovely tribe from Jhabua, India — the Adivasis. They do not worry about future. Always earning for the present and live in the moment.  The cycle’s been the same for generations: Born, started working to learn, fell in love to grow, made a family, and told the kids to work to learn. Then they'll fall to grow.

[legally-terminated]

She asked God.

"Give me something I can hold onto. Something I wouldn't ever want to let go."

So. God gave her a child.

A beautiful daughter that she could hold onto.

She then learned to not only hold onto her child, but to hold onto herself.

To hold true to who she was before that man.

Before the shattered reflections of her past.

To hold onto herself as she became herself once more.

and from that day she never let go again.

She became thyself once again.

[thecpdiary]

Why we hold on to anger

“Anger is defined as an emotion characterised by tension and hostility arising from frustration, real or imagined injury by another, or perceived injustice” – Google

Anger is a spontaneous response to an issue or situation that is being ignored and is continual. When anyone feels anger they are non-cooperative. We don’t actively choose to carry anger, it is our circumstances that dictate the anger we feel.

It is true for me. I continually lived in a ‘fight or flight’ response as a child well into my twenties trying to deal with a disability I didn’t know I had. It was an acute stress response to my own situation. It’s not something I fully understood and those who did understand, made my anger about me.

Children also don’t actively choose to hold on to anger. I needed help, to be able to understand and work through my mental and emotional struggles and with a little more ease. To be understood not misunderstood, to have the support, for me to navigate my disability, to give me the tools to cope moving forward.

Any issue or situation that is on-going and is never addressed by the perpetrator, will lead the victim to carry the hurt and hurt if not dealt with, will turn into anger. We have anger when our issues are continually not being addressed.

When anyone causes others to hold on to anger, and there is no apology for what they’ve done, the victim will always find it hard to let go of their anger. As adults, as parents, we have to want to care, to help be a support, it is our job.

I make reference to The NSPCC ‘Full Stop’ Campaign in 1999. (Source: https://sofii.org). No child should have to deal with the anger they feel through trauma, neglect or abuse, or deal with trauma, neglect or abuse. Full Stop.

For more inspirational, life-changing blogs, please check out my site https://www.thecpdiary.com

[reallifeperfect]

When I left NC I fought so hard to keep some things. Now I’m figuring out how to get rid of most of it. When there are big changes, uncertainty, or you feel out of control our instinct is to hold onto what we know (even when it’s not the beat thing for us). We #holdonto things, jobs, relationships, & stories because they give us a feeling we want. It could be control, familiarity, security, or something else. When you feel yourself clinging to something, ask yourself why you want to keep it. If the answer isn’t because it makes you fucking happy That’s a sign it might be time to let go https://www.instagram.com/p/BydAKyOJBAN/?igshid=pxstqy4ddlzq

[reallifeperfect]

When I left NC I fought so hard to keep some things. Now I’m figuring out how to get rid of most of it. When there are big changes, uncertainty, or you feel out of control our instinct is to hold onto what we know (even when it’s not the beat thing for us). We #holdonto things, jobs, relationships, & stories because they give us a feeling we want. It could be control, familiarity, security, or something else. When you feel yourself clinging to something, ask yourself why you want to keep it. If the answer isn’t because it makes you fucking happy That’s a sign it might be time to let go https://www.instagram.com/p/ByU6Wzdpp9R/?igshid=7583an9atcnj

[kenopsiak]

Her world was a mess, so she lost herself in a world of madness. As lost as Alice. As mad as the Hatter. #Chaos #Anxiety #Lost #Found #Darkness #Light #Soul #Breathe #Beauty #Madness #Peace #Inner #Outer #Conform #Display #Mental #Physical #Health #Become #HoldOnTo #Weak #Strong #FindYou #Wonderland

[officialfarrow]

|More LIFE| #Learneveryday #Loveyours #Holdonto #Farrow #Love #Life

[daonlykritta]

If only he existed *sigh* #woman #holdonto #dontaskforshit #grind #own #need #time #attention #love #respect #loyalty #looking #stupid