Stop it.
Don’t you dare message her on Facebook.
I know, you already “liked” her most recent profile picture.
And you “favorited” her tweet last night that was some quote by F. Scott Fitzgerald.
Maybe you even got a little freaky and retweeted it.
Wait, did you swipe right on her tinder pic?
Well then she has to know you’re interested by now, right?
This is considered flirting nowadays.
But what if, hear me out, what if..
You just went up and asked her out on a date.
To dinner.
In person.
*earth shatters*
We live in a world where confrontation is our absolute last resort and instead of a guy walking up to a young lady and asking,
“Hi there, I noticed you from across the room and I was wondering if you’d like to get coffee with me some time?”
They send messages saying,
“U got kik?”
Stop it.
Now, don’t get me wrong. I know why confrontation is mortifying.
What if she says no?
What if she thinks you’re a creep?
It’s absolutely terrifying putting yourself out there and making the first move. Especially when you’re not behind a computer screen.
But I’m going to let you in on a little secret….
Girls want you to ask them out.
We want to be sitting alone in a coffee shop when you walk up to our table and tell us we look nice that day.
Because if we’re being honest we spent 30 minutes deciding if our hair looked okay up in a ponytail.
We want to be walking to math class when you stop us and ask, “Hey, would you like to get dinner with me next week?”
We actually fantasize about it all the time.
We don’t fantasize about getting random Facebook messages saying, “U hav a gr8 body wud u wanna hang sum time?”
No.
No I would not.
I get it, guys.
Being vulnerable was never a walk in the park.
But if we really think about it… what’s the worst that could happen?
She could say no.
….and that’s about it.
She’s not going to laugh hysterically in your face and tell everyone at your school that you’re a pathetic sicko until your life becomes a black hole filled with despair and tragedy.
Unless she’s a character from the movie “Mean Girls.”
Then run.
People used to go on dates
Or that’s what someone told me once.
I don’t know if I believe them.
Because dating today is nonexistent. We don’t dress up in nice clothes and take each other to fancy dinners. We don’t take walks around the park or buy each other ice cream cones before going to see that awesome new movie that just came out. We don’t make commitments. And we only make promises just to see how burned the other person will be once they break.
We don’t date.
Instead we go to each others’ houses and watch Netflix until someone makes the first move. We have dozens of almost relationships that we label as “things.”
People don’t commit anymore.
And then they randomly stop talking to you one day and you’re sitting there like an idiot thinking “What on earth did I do wrong?”
But they never promised they would stay.
And you didn’t either.
We walk away from each other because we never care enough to actually stay.
And then we bump into someone else who just got out of an “almost relationship”
And we do it all over again.
Just because we can.
Messed up, isn’t it?
Well we can change it.
By being brave and putting ourselves out there.
So how do you get the girl properly?
You ask her on a real date.
You tell her she looks really pretty in that blue dress.
You take her to a fancy dinner.
You respect her boundaries and don’t try to kiss her on the first date.
You ask her out again.
You buy her lavender ice cream.
You hold her hand down sidewalks.
And you only kiss her when you’re both comfortable with it.
That’s all there is to it.
And that, my friend is how you get the girl.
