#howtoparent

[yungdiva999]

When I have kids, I want them to be happy that it’s my day off from work, and not dread that I’m home. Right now, I’m confused about the direction that my life will go, in regards to marriage and commitment. The answer is still pending, but I’m sure that regardless of what the answer is, it’ll be permanent. I know that I’ll be happy and paid. I don’t know, However, Whether or not I’ll be a glorious, glamorous, talented, beautiful, intelligent SLUT, OR if I’ll be a glorious, glamorous, talented, beautiful, intelligent partner to someone, which would inevitably result in children. Clearly, I’m not having kids unless I’m in a life long anticipated relationship and wealthy. ANYWAY, the point is, if I don’t turn out to be a glorious, glamorous, talented, beautiful, intelligent SLUT, and do have children, I’m just going to make sure that I go out of my way to NOT ONLY discipline, and teach them, BUT make sure that they actually like me, enjoy my company, and want me and my spouse around.

[doctor-mommy-speaks]

Parents don't give up. This lockdown has been tough on everyone, Parents, kids alike. These few months have proven to be mentally most taxing. Literally, every single day is a task that we try to accomplish. Our kids testing us in worse possible ways. Every day I feel I am on the verge of a mental break down but then I remember I am a parent and I have Lil humans to care for. It's not a very motivating thought but their smiles are. I remember the old younger days without kids where living carefree was the only way I knew. Now I have learnt to respect my parents more than ever.  They did the same things and did an even better job than us. Didn't complain, didn't have mental break downs, provided the best for us. I wonder How did they do it I wonder is it that they were better at it than us and we are the weaker generation or maybe Parenting in this era is actually a feat in itself. Whichever be the case I have understood one thing That looking back at this time I am going to pat myself on the back and pamper myself for having done it amidst this pandemic.  I think parents are superhumans n moms, rank higher in that hierarchy I sometimes sit and think at bedtime that did I really get through today.  The day that seemed like it wouldn't end! Thankyou COVID 19 for making me realise how great -a job parenting is…. Period. . . . #raisingkids #raisingdaughters #raisingboys #howtoparent #parentingishard #parentingdoneright #parentingmoments #raisingsuccessfulchildren #parentproblems #parentingtips #tiredasamother #momtruths #realmoms #marriedwithchildren #doctormommyspeaks #doctorsofinstagram #doctormomlife #tiredmom #exhaustedmommy #indianmomblogger (at India) https://www.instagram.com/p/CCYKneMF91M/?igshid=b8retlctvrm1

[doctor-mommy-speaks]

How to make sure your child loves what he's doing and succeed in it? Help him develop skills that he's passionate about !!!! #raisingkids #raisingdaughters #raisingboys #howtoparent #parentingishard #parentingdoneright #parentingmoments #raisingsuccessfulchildren #parentproblems #parentingtips #tiredasamother #momtruths #realmoms #realtalk #marriedwithchildren #doctormommyspeaks #doctorsofinstagram #doctormomlife #indianmomblogger (at India) https://www.instagram.com/p/CB-R-RllWQZ/?igshid=14i757ss45if8

[doctor-mommy-speaks]

Aggression in a child is a call for help. An aggressive child is a scared child. When he lashes out, he literally can't think. He doesn't want to hurt you or his siblings and, even if you don't know, he feels even worse each time he does it. He wants you to intervene, stop the behavior, and stay with him and calm him down. This behaviour isn't going to gt corrected in a day or week. But gradually it wil reduce if you learn to handle it well. Here are some techniques which I found useful: ✔️Don't raise your voice. Don't get physical. Rough handling of the child in a fit if anger is going to be of no use. ✔️His limbic system is tuned into the nonverbal clues you're sending his way and if you're angry he'll know it, even if you don't say a word. Just by the way you handle him. ✔️If you're in the right frame of mind stay with him. If not, don't. Find some other way through. Holding him when you're angry, in such a way that he feels restricted, will likely make things worse. ✔️Staylistening. This is a simple technique for toddlers. When the child is in the midst of a tantrum u help him by just staying around him.and listening to what he has to say. ✔️Practice the same behaviour every time you see him aggressive & hitting. I.e. talk softly, Hold him gently, Explain to him that its wrong to hit, Its ok to be angry or frustrated. Then when he calms a bit down then you can address the cause. Hope these help you too. Share your own ways which have helped you tackle these situations 😊. . #raisingkids #raising daughters #raisingboys #howtoparent #parentingishard #siblingrivalry #parentingdoneright #toddlertantrums #parentingmoments #raisingsuccessfulchildren #parentproblems #parentingtips #tiredasamother #momtruths #realmoms #marriedwithchildren #doctormommyspeaks #doctorsofinstagram #doctormomlife #tiredmom #exhaustedmommy #indianmomblogger (at India) https://www.instagram.com/p/CBu2muWl4Qq/?igshid=17v10fi1kknie

[doctor-mommy-speaks]

HOW TO RAISE INDEPENDENT ADULTS. 1. Stop Doing Everything for Them Although it may be easier to just do things yourself, this teaches your child nothing about the task at hand. Show them, teach them, and then let them handles things on their own. If they need help, they’ll ask for it. Confidence builds with independently created tasks. 2. Give them age appropriate chores.  The best way to raise independent adults is to give them tasks. On completing the task, the child gets a feelings of accomplishment and pride. Also giving incentives can be an add on. As they learn that hardwork pays off 3. Let them make less consequential decisions in their own without any intervention. It could be simple choices between breakfast. Or choosing a dress for the day. Or even which story he wants. Subtle changes in our parenting style, have a Huge impact on the lives of our kids and go a long way in creating well adjusted, independent humans. What do u practice so as to make your child independent ? I would love to know. #raisingkids #raising daughters #raisingboys #howtoparent #parentingishard #parentingdoneright #parentingmoments #raisingsuccessfulchildren #parentproblems #parentingtips #tiredasamother #momtruths #realmoms #marriedwithchildren #doctormommyspeaks #doctorsofinstagram #doctormomlife #tiredmom #exhaustedmommy #indianmomblogger (at India) https://www.instagram.com/p/CBlGWlLFYVZ/?igshid=lhnf51y0dzsm

[doctor-mommy-speaks]

#parentsdontunderstand Don't mean to offend anyone, but Don't we all do this.... What is your opinion on this? #raisingkids #raisingdaughters #raisingboys #howtoparent #parentingishard #parentingdoneright #parentingmoments #spiritualjourney #spiritualawareness #raisingsuccessfulchildren #parentproblems #parentingtips #tiredasamother #momtruths #realmoms #realtalk #marriedwithchildren #doctormommyspeaks #doctorsofinstagram #doctormomlife #indianmomblogger (at India) https://www.instagram.com/p/CBVMPDfFmxx/?igshid=12g48c18muyob

[doctor-mommy-speaks]

I wish I knew this when I was young. Financial literacy should be initiated at an early age. Do you agree? . . . . #raisingkids #raisingdaughters #raisingboys #howtoparent #parentingishard #parentingdoneright #parentingmoments #raisingsuccessfulchildren #parentproblems #parentingtips #tiredasamother #momtruths #realmoms #realtalk #marriedwithchildren #doctormommyspeaks #doctorsofinstagram  #doctormomlife #indianmomblogger (at India) https://www.instagram.com/p/CBNRUK2FqBg/?igshid=hpcp3lngtxdb

[hopefullygettingtaller]

TO EVERY PARENT AND EXPECTING

I don't know how old you are, but if you are a parent and/or expecting another/first child, read below.

Your child WILL get mad at you at some point. Remember the times you got mad at your parents/guardians. If you can’t, let me give you a basic idea on what it is like. 

You give someone all the trust you have. In return, they get mad at you about things you don’t understand/can’t relate to. You feel broken, on the verge of crying or already crying. The person you are arguing with calls you childish, ignoring the fact that you ARE a child. You feel angry. You try to show it without  making things worse because anger is a feeling that is perfectly fine to feel. But the other side of the argument doesn’t seem to understand. 

I need you to see that anger is an emotion just like happiness or sadness. You feel it at every stage of your life. Remember that your child is just as human as you are. We mess up, we make mistakes. You do too.

Your child is allowed to complain. Yes, people have it worse than us but that shouldn’t stop us from complaining. Look, I’m not saying that we have the right to think we have it the worst, I’m saying that our problems are worth complaining, and that we can complain. YOUR CHILD SHOULDN’T HAVE TO HANDLE EVERYTHING ALONE. LET US TELL YOU THE STUFF WE ARE GOING THROUGH

So the summary of this text is that your child should be allowed to feel, complain and express their emotions freely without judgement or pressure.

LET US FEEL

LET US EXPRESS WHAT WE FEEL

LET US BE IMPERFECT

              WE ARE JUST AS HUMAN AS YOU ARE

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