Why don't we talk about grief?
Lately it has been brought to my attention that we tend to avoid speaking about people who passed, whereas it has been recently or years had passed. And what is the reason for that? because it makes us uncomfortable.
We feel uncomfortable to hear about a different perspective of the same human we once knew, to see the many pieces of someone who was once here.
Im following this a few months after the first time i wrote this and let me tell you that this thought comes from my own experience with my dad.
The only way i can remember him is with the eyes of the child i used to be and to those eyes he was wonderful. Years later, after a few talks with my mother and some over heard after dinner conversation, I've come to the conclusion that my dad, in fact, was not a good person.
He had issues with drugs, alcohol, money and partying that i noted slightly when i was younger but never gave too much thought. This knowledge completely destroy the image i had of him and now everytime someone ask id rather avoid the topic of my father.
So, yeah. A big part about grief that we don't often talk about is how uncomfortable it can be sometimes.
