#identity advice

[cloverrcupid]

sometimes i feel like im faking my alterhumanity because i have so many kins, and im worried if i explode more media and characters i might kin even more characters/creatures. i feel like the more my identity grows the more "faker" i seem to people. my identity is a pit, ill never have enough labels or anything to fill it and it makes me feel fake.

any advice on how to stop doubting yourself/your alterhumanity?

[quickdeathwritessometimes]

okay everyone this is me trying to figure out my sexuality! horay! help. 1. i like men, i think i would date a man 2. i probably wouldn't date women (?) 3. would probably date masc-aligned genders + non-binary people 4. aegosexual. I'm pretty certain on that. 5. also pretty sure i'm demiromantic but i... don't know. relationships are hard okay. i think that's it? does anyone have a label that encompasses the first 3 points? i'm like.. struggling here because i'm not necessarily gay but i'm also definitely not straight lmao. i feel like a label would help me define myself a bit better

[genderheaven]

hii!!

we just wanted some cool genders relating to the deep ocean, creepy forests, oceans, space, deep space and dark nights.

thank you!!!

Here's what I found!

Ocean:

biotijelic: an aesthetigender relating to tides, the deep sea, marine animals, jellyfish and bioluminescence. can be applied to anything - examples are girlbiotijelic, pribiotijelic, etc.

deepseagender: a gender that relates it the deeper part of the ocean and the creatures inside, or it feels scary and unknown, and beautiful in a way.

eldriceanic: a xenogender that feels like being an eldritch monster lurking in the darkest depths of the ocean

gendersea: a xenogender that is a vast sea of caverns and depths yet to be discovered. similar to gendervoid. this term can be used by anyone, but was created with otherkin related ocean or sea creatures in mind

Oceaspatium: A gender that encompasses the vastness of space and the depths and qualities of the ocean.

benthigender: a xenogender related to the benthic zone of the ocean, the animals, or anything located there

pacifo/pacifiogender: a gender that is extremely deep, warm, and powerful. related to the pacific ocean as well.

Bathyfluid: a gender that flows like the deep ocean currents.

Gendermorfil: a gender connected to sea monsters, the sound of whales, dark nights in early spring, bells ringing, boats sailing the high seas, cold water, ocean waves lashing a ship hull, and the feeling of an ocean breeze on a wooden ship.

Creepy Forests/Dark Nights

Starforestaesic: A gender related to the forest, stars, nature, the night sky in the woods, and the general aesthetic of stars in the forest.

siligoquilian: a gender that feels like watching as fog/mist rolls into a forest with a sense of tranquility and mystery!

Bergrusticarian: a gender connected to mountains, dark homes at night, cabins for vacation, small forest creatures, the sound of birds in trees, owls hooing at night, and rustic, agrarian, and autumnal aesthetics. It may be a gender that only lasts for the autumn season, or it may persist into winter and, possibly, spring.

Tempestasautumna: a gender that is simply like an autumn day with a storm streaking across the sky. It is connected to loud claps of thunder, lightning bolts shooting across the sky, crows and birds sitting on wires, dark academia-esque things like dark days, nightfall, the cooling of the weather during a storm, and overall autumn aesthetics.

Gendersaegrund: a gender that is very unknown, dark, and sullen. It is connected to deep sea creatures, the bottom of the ocean, the coldness of the bottom of the ocean, rare fish, bioluminescence, and the sound of bubbles crackling.

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Goostgender: a gender that is simply connected to spirits in forests. It is connected to general spirits in forests things, spirits in forest aesthetics, and anything connected to spirits in forests.

Silvasbaonic: a gender that is like a dim forest on an autumn night. It reminds the user of calmness and love, making the identity loving and gentle. It can be connected to dim nights, the feeling of home, autumn nights, forests, stars twinkling far off into the sky, owls hooing, and calmness.

Genderminuit: a gender that is peaceful and dark, like a winter night in the French countryside. It is connected to the chime of a grandfather clock at 12 o’clock midnight, the sound of owls in a weeping willow, the cloudy sky, and the color of the Moon.

Space

There are SO many of these ones, so I tried to find ones that specifically had things in common with genders I already listed. Creepiness, deepness, and so on. For a bigger list of general space genders, check this Google Doc.

Stjerine: a gender related to stars appearing in the sky, auroras, cold nights, the color of the sky at night, the Moon rising and setting, space, and time in general. It may feel uncomfortably cold, yet have a gentle, happy quality to it. Related to Astronomique.

Moanneine: a gender related to the Moon, star-gazing, looking up at the Moon and stars at night, nighttime, nostalgia, stars, space, and time. It may feel far away, yet have a comforting/nostalgic quality to it. Related to Astronomique.

Svarthulline: a gender related to black holes, infinity, nothingness, the void, and unknown objects.

[ezgender]

Hey there! I’ve seen people say it’s okay for cisgendered people to use neo-pronouns, but may I double check if it’s okay, especially for my own circumstances? It just feels a bit attention seeking to add a new-pronoun set when it’s not like I’m even taking away my cis she/her pronouns, and the new pronouns I like aren’t really good in use. It’s like I’m making up extra stuff for attention, but at the same time, the cee/cem/ceyr/ceyrs pronouns I’ve tried through the pronoun dressing room give me a sense of hope. It’s almost like with she/her, I am myself and I’m comfortable, but with cee/cem/ceyr, I am also myself with a dream just above me. It feels nice, in a thrilling, almost risky way. But idk, I’m still a girl, still she/her, and now with an extra pronoun that literally no one else uses? I’ve seen posts about people who use new pronouns other than the ones assigned at birth get a sense of euphoria, and that’s how they know it’s right. I don’t know exactly what the standard for that is, and with every passing second I type this out, the guilt grows and grows, telling me not even to send this, telling me I’m taking advantage for attention. But if this helps me find myself, whether find that I shouldn’t use cee/cem/ceyr or find that I can, I’m going to take a little risk. Very, very sorry if this really is offensive and very sorry for taking up your time. Thank you for reading any of this at all, Viana.

hey viana.

i’ve heard about cisgender people who adopt neopronouns for various reasons, and while it might seem counter-productive i think it’s a valid thing to do. 

it really sounds like you’re stressing over this, so i’ll start by telling you to breathe. i don’t think you’re hurting anybody. there’s absolutely nothing wrong with trying out new things, and exploring potential parts of one’s identity, which trying different pronouns is, that especially applies to. there’s nothing wrong with exploring options. i don’t think this is offensive, and it’s good you reached out to a nonbinary person to make sure, too. that shows me you’re not trying to hurt anyone. try to be at least a little less hard on yourself. :-)

now, i will admit - how you describe the feeling this pronoun set gives you? i think that’s something i’d describe as euphoria. my followers can weigh in on this, too, if anyone’s described their euphoria in a similar fashion.

link: euphoria tag on HINAD

link: questioning tag on HINAD

now, of course, i can’t 100% tell you what your identity is or what these feelings mean for you. but from my perspective, it does sound a lot like my own euphoria. so, what i’ll leave you with is the suggestion to look at some of the posts in those tags, and don’t be afraid to give yourself a little breathing room. basically, you don’t have to be nonbinary to use neopronouns, but wanting to use them might indicate something.

[genderheaven]

hiya! do you know of any genders relating to werewolves/lycanthropy? if not no worries! thank you <3

Yeah! Here's what I found: (Followers feel free to comment anymore they know of)

Weresciencegender: A gender related and/or connected to werewolves, mutations, experiments, and science.

Weredog(gender) is a gender relating, aesthetically feeling, shaped like, or feels like a weredog. This was made for any group of people to help describe their gender better. Weredog(gender)s are loyal, playful, relate to werewolves or shapeshifting in some way, canine like or feels canine, and softer than any werewolf because of their giant hearts.

Lycanis: A fluctuating gender that can switch between two or more genders. Your ‘human’ gender(s) is weaker but more frequent, and your ‘transformation’ gender(s) is stronger yet isn’t always there. It can also be a gender connected to werewolves and/or a kingender.

Lycadhgender: A gender that is related to, connected to, associated with and/or influenced by lycanthropes in some way. Can be used by both lycanthropes / therians / werewolfkins etc. and non-therians. Name taken from the word lycanthrope and the Faoladh, a werewolf of Irish folklore.

Werewolvio: A gender related/connected to werewolves in some way, shape, or form.

werewolf-centered evilcoric: a xenogender connected to werewolf aesthetics. may feel a connection to the moon, some form of hunting, or entirely rejecting humanity on a regular basis, but does not have to.

Lunirgender: Lunirgender can be any of the following: A gender related to the moon; a gender influenced by the moon; a gender influenced by a kintype to the moon; a gender related to the Greek goddesses Artemis and Selene, or the Roman goddess Diana; a gender influenced by one’s devotion to any of the aforementioned gods; a gender that can be otherwise explained or identified using the moon.

- Ez ✨

[genderheaven]

HHGGH OK UM IM LOOKING FOR S GENDER THAT STARTS WITH THE LETTER R AND RELATES TO FOUND FOOTAGE DO YOU KNOW ANY GENDERS LIKE THAT

Is it this one? OP's blog contains fl/shing images and eyestr/in, so here's the post content below:

recorstatic: a gender that is related to found footage horror OR a gender that is fuzzy and difficult to make out; it feels as though the experience of the gender is secondhand, like through a camera, and it may occasionally create unease.

color meanings: green: color of a camera’s night vision, unease dark red: blood, organs, etc dark grey: darkness, obscurity light grey: eyes in the darkness bright red: the light of a recording camera white: lines of static, screen tearing

matching pronoun sets: fo/fou/founds/foundself re/rec/recs/recordself 📹/📹/📹s/📹self

[genderheaven]

Do you know of any genders having to do with being a neopet? I will make some flags if not <3

i found virpetgender, a virtual pet themed xenogender:

Virpetgender is a xenogender for anyone with a connection to both animals and digital things.  It’s virtual pet themed!!

i feel like i've seen neopet-related genders around, but didn't find any as i looked

[genderheaven]

Hi!! Um. Do you know of any genders that feel soft, warm and fairytale like or any genders that feel alien-y, gritty and deep? It doesn't have to be that specific but uh. Yeah.

Here's what I found! Followers, feel welcome to comment any more that you know.

Soft, warm:

tenercatgender: a subset of catgender that is connected to being soft/cuddly.

Honeygender: A gender that feels slow and warm, but steady and sweet at the same time. It is also protective and sheltering. (Note: Honeygender has alternate definitions as well)

psychloftgender: a neurogender related to love, softness, and psychosis (exclusive to psychotic people)

Xenosoft: When you have a “soft” xenogender, or when you have a connection to “soft” xenity.

warmfuzzic: a xenogender that feels warm, soft, and happy. this gender is uplifitng and positive, with a connection to pastel colors.

Fairytale:

alofrendic: a shy, masculine gender related to being happy when alone but really wanting a friend, grey, warm brown, and reading fairytales!

Gendersagittare: a gender that is like a bow and arrow, in that it fires inside the identity, “converting” other genders into different things, like a fairy tale archer changing things fired by arrows into other things. It can be connected to the seasons, archery, and the outdoors.

nostocozic: a nostalgic, masculine gender related to christmas, gingerbread, happiness, stories, and cozy hugs!

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Alien, gritty, or deep:

Nebulousgender - a stargender/spacegender, xenogender, and kingender based on a strong connection to space, the stars, and planets. Could also be a strong connection to being an alien, Made for Alienkin, but free for anyone to use.

tentplexitygender - a gender relating to otherworldy alien genometries, lovecraftian-like architecture, cosmic horror/horror settings, and non euclidean spaces.

aliengender: a xenogender that is an interpretation of a gender from a nonhuman perspective; someone who doesn't identify with the gender binary due to feeling like they're from another planet; someone who identifies with a gender from another planet. also known as aliegender.

alienhonum: a gender related to being a nonhuman alien; a alien-related nonhuman gender! this gender can only be used by alien nonhumans!

extraterrean: a xenogender that's connected to genderless aliens or alien-like creatures. this gender feels uncanny, inorganic, and amorphous, much like the beings it's related to