when it comes to the rarijack vs appledash ship war, i honestly think both sides can act very childish. and even if i personnaly like both but prefer rarijack, i'm not going to pretend most shippers are always respectful because they often aren't.
although there is one particular thing i honestly despise in certain appledash shippers, it is how they're trying to make you feel guilty for not enjoying their ship. personnaly, people saying some queerphobic bullshit disguised as a woke take is one of my biggest pet peeves.
i personnaly do not see applejack as butch, but shipping appledash (a lesbian ship) and hating on butchfemmes is absolutely crazy??? this is lesbophobic as shit. you are deadass saying shipping a feminine and masculine woman together is HETERONORMATIVE. are you serious????? this is what straight people say to hate on us btw. "lesbians just copy straight couples" "butchfemme is a stupid concept, why not just date a guy?" are things i have actually heard in real life as a lesbian, and it just echoes in my head when I see this. lesbians do NOT fucking owe you to be strictly fem4fem or masc4masc. butchfemme lesbians are extremely important in queer history, they are the opposite of heteronormative. firstly because they're just NOT straight and secondly because their entire identity (butches AND femmes) go against the standard that society holds for them. do these people even know what a butch or a femme is?? 😭😭
i'm so pissed at people saying that butchfemmes have "heteronormative priviledges" that's just some bullshit we're all on the same boat