#infantsleepeducator

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My kids are 8 & 3 but yesterday I bought a crib for a first time! Our hedgehog had outgrown the cage and an old crib for $15 seemed to be the perfect solution. #cribs are for pets not #babies .We will build him a balcony and ramp for more space soon. As an #infantsleepeducator I bedshared with both my boys and a crib was never a consideration. I know that like all mammals the perfect place for a baby is feeling secure next to their primary caregiver. Have questions about how to Bedshare safely? Reach out! I'm happy to help. #secureattachment #cosleeping #hedgehog #pet #newhome https://www.instagram.com/p/CGsU9EUnFJ7/?igshid=swc1gttbulay

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When a child has a behaviour you don't like the go-to mainstream parenting mindset is to just pull our attention and ignore it or to react and discipline immediately. Most often a time out. To parent consciously is to always pause and look at how your own energy, beliefs and behaviours are influencing the situation. To see that behaviour is communication of a need. If they are acting out to get attention removing attention will only make the root issue worse. Their need for positive connection needs to be filled. Time outs must become a thing of the past! To leave the child to navigate big feelings alone only teaches them to shut down and not feel them because they are too overwhelming. The thing a child needs most is to know they are loved unconditionally and the connection is secure. In Time outs you removing them from your connection and leaving them alone and lost in those big emotions. Lessons cannot be learned when your a drowning in emotions, you first need to be their lifeguard! Navigating emotions is a skill that needs to be learned and is developmental. Until age 3 and there is leaps in development of the prefrontal cortex, babies and children NEED parental co-regulation to turn off stress signals. We connect and then redirect. Age 3 and beyond they are then ready to be taught emotional regulation skills. Children cannot learn when in the right brain and flooded with emotions, teaching appropriate behaviour must but done outside of the emotionally charged situation and both are calm and connected. As @buildgreatminds Rhea always says "footnote" the behaviour to be addressed later when in a teachable space. As an #infantsleepeducator I will tell you this applies to sleep training too. Removing your attention from a signalling baby is not teaching them the skills to regulate their emotions-only shut the off and repress them!! #consciousparenting #postiveparenting #nomoretimeouts #infantsleepeducation #cio #sleepconsulting #sleeptraining #timeout #eq #gentleparenting #gentlesleep #selfsoothing #emotionalintelligencecoach #emotionalintelligence #security #unconditionallove (at Joanne Fisher Family BodyTalk) https://www.instagram.com/p/CDCtf8XH9E4/?igshid=q7nx2ggbvhlj

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How does this apply to conscious parenting? My practice is a combination of energy medicine and parental support/Education. In the #lawofattraction and #consciousnessbasedmedicine we work from the philosophy that every is energy and everything has a vibratory frequency and #quantummechanics in which something only exists if it is consciously observed. So this concept works for some areas but not always in parenting... So when our child has a behaviour you don't like the go to mainstream parenting mindset is to just pull our attention and ignore it or to react and discipline immediately. To parent consciously is to always pause and look at how your own energy, beliefs and behaviours are influencing the situation. To see that behaviour is communication of a need. If they are acting out to get attention removing attention will only make the root issue worse. Their need for positive connection needs to be filled. Time outs must become a thing of the past! To leave the child to navigate big feelings alone as that only teaches them to shut down and not feel them because they are too overwhelming. Navigating emotions is a skill that needs to be learned and is developmental. Until age 3 and there is leaps in development of the prefrontal cortex, babies and children NEED parental co-regulation to turn off stress signals. We connect and then redirect. Age 3 and beyond they are then ready to be taught emotional regulation skills. Children cannot learn when in the right brain and flooded with emotions, teaching appropriate behaviour must but done outside of the emotionally charged situation and both are calm and connected. As @buildgreatminds Rhea always says "footnote" the behaviour to be addressed later when in a teachable space. As an #infantsleepeducator I will tell you this applies to sleep training too. Removing your attention from a signalling baby is not teaching them the skills to regulate their emotions-only shut the off and repress them!! #consciousparenting #postiveparenting #nomoretimeouts #infantsleepeducation https://www.instagram.com/p/CCRIijmH_bR/?igshid=110poiy8fqrv0

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Baby had been held and rocked to sleep everytime in the womb and is accustomed to that care.⁣ ⁣ Does that mean it's a habit we need to break? As an infant sleep educator we say No! That's False! Pacifiers, Holding, nursing, rocking baby down to sleep are 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘱𝘴 𝐛𝐮𝐭 𝐭𝐨𝐨𝐥𝐬. Babies needs external comfort!! ⁣ Babies do but have the developmental capabilities to turn off their stress responses. They need co-regulation from an attuned, regulated caregiver. Without assistance baby will stay flooded in stress hormones. As an #infantsleepeducator we understand that each time a neural pathways is activated it wires it in stronger. 𝐁𝐲 𝐮𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐨𝐨𝐥𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐜𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐭 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐰𝐞 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐠𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐚𝐭𝐡𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐛𝐫𝐚𝐢𝐧 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐛𝐨𝐝𝐲 𝐭𝐨 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰 𝐢𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐬𝐚𝐟𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐞𝐜𝐮𝐫𝐞. ⁣ Creating a foundation for heathy mental and emotional health for a lifetime. We recommend having multiple ways of soothing baby to sleep. It is when a baby will only go down one way (nursing for example) that the caregiver will experience burnout. As baby's sleep cycles, circadian rhythms and brain mature they will naturally need less assistance. I like the saying "𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘣𝘢𝘣𝘺 𝘪𝘯 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘯𝘵 𝘰𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶" and give them what the need now without worrying about the future. They won't need this support for long, so cuddle them, hold them and assist them to go to sleep. Their long term development thrives on this connection and comfort. ⁣ ⁣ #infantsleepeducation #beyondsleeptraining #gentleparenting #sleepconsultant #babyneeds #babyledsleepandwellbeingspecialist #saynotosleeptraining https://www.instagram.com/p/CAgbUMTnfRd/?igshid=ktjw0fw6ss0p

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The Sleep training industry is based off the idea that there is certain rules to when and how baby naps. As well as how long they can be awake between naps. The problem is 𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘴𝘦 𝘳𝘶𝘭𝘦𝘴 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘴𝘪𝘮𝘱𝘭𝘺 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦'𝘴 𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴. ⁣ ⁣ 𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐧𝐨 𝐬𝐮𝐜𝐡 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐬 𝐞𝐯𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐛𝐚𝐬𝐞𝐝 𝐧𝐚𝐩 𝐠𝐮𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐬!!⁣ We only have averages. Every baby is different and has different needs. Which is why as an #infantsleepeducator we recommend watching your baby's tired cues and not the clock. Each developmental milestone your baby reaches his/hers sleep needs will change. Research also shows that while naps are vitally important to integrating all the new skills and memories from the day there is no difference in the integration process between a nap that was 30 minutes long or 2 hours long. Some babies need longer naps and some are great with only 30 minutes. Some can manage really long awake stretches while others cannot. There is no one size fits all approach. Most babies will need parental co-regulation to link their sleep cycles together to make the sleep stretch longer. Young babies will often sleep best while in a carrier and that movement and connection 𝐢𝐬 beneficial to them. Solitary crib sleep is a modern ideology that doesn't fit with our mammalian biology.⁣ 𝘉𝘢𝘣𝘪𝘦𝘴 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘥 𝘸𝘪𝘳𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘯𝘦𝘦𝘥 𝘶𝘴 𝘤𝘭𝘰𝘴𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘮- 𝘥𝘢𝘺 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘯𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘦𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘷𝘶𝘭𝘯𝘦𝘳𝘢𝘣𝘭𝘦 𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘴𝘭𝘦𝘦𝘱. ⁣ ⁣ Image From Sarah Ockwell-Smith's book: Why your baby's sleep matters. #infantsleepeducation #infantsleep #sleepconsultant #biologicallynormalinfantsleep https://www.instagram.com/p/CAadleBHXK-/?igshid=1bnr6kwbat60z

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FALSE! Waking at night is completely normal. Babies' sleep cycles are much different than adults. They spend much more time in REM and their cycles are shorter which means they're more often in light sleep where it is easy to wake from changes in the environment or dreams. These light cycles help to protect from SIDS. To consolidate sleep or to "sleep through the night" is to link their many short sleep cycles together. Adults will have 4-6 cycles per night whereas babies will have 12-16 cycles per night & 12-16 opportunities to wake up!! Babies often need parental co-regulation to move into the next cycle and remain asleep. The ability to link the cycles together and remain asleep without assistance is a developmental milestone just like crawling, that can't be rushed. Reliably being there to respond helps baby to develop independent sleep as they learn they are safe and sleep is a nice place to be. Studies show that sleep training methods in which parents stop responding to baby at night in order to "teach" them to go back to sleep themselves do not result in baby getting more sleep. Instead they just stop signaling for assistance and may just go into "freeze" state of the stress response. Shutting down which looks like going to sleep but Cortisol levels remain elevated. Babies are biologically unable to self soothe, they lack the development of the prefrontal cortex and hippocampus. The need comfort from an adult to stop the stress responses. Infancy (0-3y) is a time of immense neurological development and stress impedes that development. We can find ways to support both baby and parental sleep that doesn't include sleep training. Help is available! seek out a #infantsleepeducator like me for support. #beyondsleeptraining #infantsleepeducation #sleepconsultant #biologicallynormalinfantsleep #gentleparenting (at Joanne Fisher Family BodyTalk) https://www.instagram.com/p/CAYy0kUnN8A/?igshid=nkcp82houkb2

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Every interaction you have with a small child is wiring their brain. This wiring creates the foundation of mental and emotional health . We have the power to prevent major developmental issues by being conscious of how we nurture brain development. We know mental health is made up of complex emotional and cognitive brain circuits that largely formed by relationships early in life. Conception to age 3. These circuits can be later changed but with much more effort. The type of caregiving we receive tells our brain how to develop.  Positive nurturing relationships and experiences wire the brain that it is safe. In a safe world exploring, thinking and socializing are advantageous. Danger mode means the brain wires to always being on alert and in stress mode so is ready to respond. Anxiety, fear, worry can become main pathways. Everyday is a critical period in development. Babies need emotional co-regulation, and to know they are safe day and night. Experiences are stored as subconscious intrinsic memories (In BodyTalk we call these active memories). With each experience, the Infant Brain creates judgements ---am I safe/not safe, what's good/bad etc because it's essential for survival. These judgments also creates the foundation of self esteem, confidence, power, and the beliefs about the world. How they view money, love, relationships... REMEMBER-You are their curriculum! All the belief systems, fears, events can be addressed with BodyTalk. But the key is prevention! I am here as an #infantsleepeducator to help you provide responsive care and as a #bodytalksystem practitioner to reduce stress for the whole family and heal from unfavorable experiences and programming. Let's nurture these growing brains! (at Joanne Fisher Family BodyTalk) https://www.instagram.com/p/CAJ8FD2HCVe/?igshid=17ojla5sbk3zz

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As an Infant Sleep educator my goal is stop the misinformation and give the facts. ⁣ "𝘐𝘴 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘣𝘢𝘣𝘺 𝘴𝘭𝘦𝘦𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘯𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘺𝘦𝘵?" Is one of the most common questions a new parent is asked. It is a loaded question that makes parents feel like they are failing if their baby isn't keeping up to the cultural (and false) expectations that they 𝘴𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘣𝘦 sleeping through the night by the age of 4 months or 6 months or even 18 months. ⁣ ⁣ The answer to the question is 2.5 years! This is when most babies move into more adult-like sleep rhythms. Night waking can commonly occur into later childhood. In fact, us adults routinely wake at night. The difference is adults have the prefrontal cortex development to understand what the noises and shadows are, the capability to adjust the temperature, to ability to regulate and understand their emotions and tend to their own bodily needs. ⁣ Babies do not. There is no capacity to self soothe, to understand and regulate their own emotions. They need parental co-regulation and support to ease an activated nervous system. Babies wake a night for good reason. Their shorter lighter sleep cycles help to protect them from SIDS and if you push a baby to sleep deeper than they are developmentally ready you can put them into danger of not being able to rouse themselves if there is an issue. 𝐀 𝐛𝐚𝐛𝐲 𝐰𝐚𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐭 𝐧𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐚 𝐛𝐞𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐢𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐛𝐥𝐞𝐦 𝐧𝐞𝐞𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐟𝐢𝐱𝐞𝐝 -- 𝐈𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐚 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐛𝐢𝐨𝐥𝐨𝐠𝐲. Let's change the landscape of expectations and instead of asking "𝘐𝘴 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘣𝘢𝘣𝘺 𝘴𝘭𝘦𝘦𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘯𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵?" we say to new parents "𝘐 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸 𝘣𝘢𝘣𝘪𝘦𝘴 𝘸𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘢𝘵 𝘯𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘯𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘭, 𝘥𝘰 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘯𝘦𝘦𝘥 𝘢 𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘴𝘰 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘤𝘢𝘵𝘤𝘩 𝘢 𝘯𝘢𝘱?" because it takes a village.⁣ ⁣ What parents need most is everyone's support and not their judgement. What babies need the most is to have their needs for comfort, nourishment and connection met --day and night. You don't have to do it alone. #infantsleepeducator s (like me) are here to help. (at Saskatoon, Saskatchewan) https://www.instagram.com/p/CAGtJcRnRCF/?igshid=1ke4i5ut1p49v