infj manipulation
one thing i haven’t seen before about infjs is just the way we can be so manipulative without others knowing and without knowing it ourselves. meaning we don’t see it as manipulation, it could be a way to simply prevent harm going towards one’s way, or a way to make things better. for instance, infjs naturally are attuned to social dynamics in that we can imagine a situation and place two people together and guess how the interactions will go. we can listen to people talk, and guess how they will treat another person. infjs can use our insight and persuasive style of communication to convince abusive people to change their perception of their victims. in situations with abusers where there is a power gap, we will use our fe to harmonize with abusive people and manipulate them to treat other people better. infjs can read the patterns in how people talk, detect pride and those who need fodder to feed their egos. we are so good in manipulating abusive and prideful people to be kinder to those more vulnerable, that most can’t detect it at all. not even the those that benefit from the improved situation. for the people we love, we try out best to create a better situation for them, often behind the scenes, undetected. they move on with their lives, even at times, hating us. because we sided with the abusers. they will never know how much worse off they would’ve been, because we took the brunt of pain. it’s a lonely thing to do what we do. we forget to make ourselves known in people’s live at times because we are so focused on other people’s futures. we forget to be present.