#infp advice

[that-whichisnot]

Top 10 INFP Questions

“Why am I so sensitive?”

Well, I can’t answer that for sure, but it could be because you’re part of a rare personality type that values emotional authenticity and depth. Or maybe it’s because you cried during that commercial with the puppy and the baby. Who knows? “Why do I feel so misunderstood?”

Maybe it’s because you’re an INFP, and according to some sources, only about 4% of the population shares your personality type. Or maybe it’s because you keep trying to explain the intricacies of your soul to your cat. “Why do I struggle with decision-making?”

Could be because you’re so empathetic that you can see the pros and cons of every choice, or maybe it’s because you’ve spent too much time scrolling through Netflix trying to decide what to watch.

“Why am I so hard on myself?”

Maybe it’s because you have high expectations for yourself and want to live up to your values and ideals, or maybe it’s because you spilled coffee on your shirt again.

“Why do I feel the need to help others?”

It could be because you have a strong sense of empathy and a desire to make a positive impact in the world, or maybe it’s because you secretly want to be everyone’s favorite person.

Why am I drawn to creative pursuits?”

Maybe it’s because you have a rich inner world and a desire to express yourself authentically, or maybe it’s because you’re trying to avoid doing laundry.

“Why do I feel so restless?”

It could be because you have a strong desire for personal growth and change, or maybe it’s because you’ve been sitting in the same position for three hours.

“Why do I have trouble with small talk?”

Maybe it’s because you value deep, meaningful connections and find surface-level conversations unfulfilling, or maybe it’s because you’re secretly afraid of saying something awkward.

“Why do I struggle with criticism?”

It could be because you’re deeply sensitive and take feedback personally, or maybe it’s because you’re still traumatized from that one time in kindergarten when you got a bad grade on your finger painting.

“Why do I feel like I don’t fit in?”

Maybe it’s because you have a unique perspective on life and find it hard to relate to others, or maybe it’s because you’re actually a unicorn in disguise. Or a Space Monkey.  We are Space Monkey. thatwhichisnot.com

[infpisme]

[an-infp-mess]

more survival tips for infps

I wanna share a few more survival tips that I use in my own infp-esque life. These come from personal experience, so take them with a grain of salt!

Break your routine once in a while - Routines can be comforting but also a little confining for us infps. Doing something a different can be really nice, even if it’s something small, e.g. waking up early to watch the sunrise or going for a rare evening jog. When I do a little something different once in a while, I’m reminded that there are so many more possibilities out there.  

Remember that everyone is strange and flawed - I tend to idolise others, especially those who I think have qualities that I don’t. E.g. they might be more confident or well spoken than me. But in reality, everyone has things about them that are weird and imperfect, even if it’s not the things that you’re insecure about. If you’re an infp that feels insecure and less than: one, I feel you, but two, remember that everyone is as weird and broken as you are even if you don’t see it at a glance.

Take an emergency dance party (for one) - When I’m home alone sometimes I crank my spotify loud and dance weird to some high energy tunes. It’s a great endorphin rush without the self-conscious embarrassment us infps can deal with on the dance floor. 

Listen to some new music - I don’t know if you infps are the same as me, but when I listen to a favourite song too much, the song loses it’s quality and it makes me sad. Listening to a new badass track is such a pick-me-up. Try to get some recs from a friend with similar taste if you struggle to find new good music (me). 

Take breaks from your projects instead of giving up - One slightly frustrating thing about being an infp is that we have trouble finishing projects. In the beginning we feel inspired and motivated, but when encountering difficulties (often practical difficulties), we can lose hope. I find that taking breaks from a project and then resetting is so helpful in achieving long term productivity. 

Forgive yourself for your ‘failures’ - I beat myself up a lot, ruminating about awkward encounters late at night. I try to be forgiving by reminding myself that I’m doing the best I can with the brain that I have. Being emotionally sensitive is tough, and we are strong for getting through life carrying that burden. 

Try to focus more energy on other people - Infps are warm and empathic, but we also tend to think about ourselves a lot. It doesn’t mean that we’re selfish, we just often live in our head. E.g. we might worry a lot about how we are perceived by others. To get out of this cycle, I’m trying to step out of worrying about my own problems and taking more notice of others’. In reality, most people are dealing with some pretty heavy shit. 

Take a chance - The cycle of keeping to yourself can mean that you can get a bit stuck in limbo. Putting yourself out there is hard! And you will probably be nervous and have some self-doubt, but it will pay off! And if it doesn’t turn out the way you wanted it to, you get to feel proud of yourself for being brave. 

[intjandothers]

INFP: Today I parked my car on a street.

INFP: And I didn't pay for the parking.

INTP: Wow, I tremble with fear. INFP, you've become a criminal.

INFP: *horrified but secretly proud*

[peachmermaid]

Does anyone else have so many ideas they want to share but every time they start typing their brain just goes: ʅʕ•ᴥ•ʔʃ ʅʕ•ᴥ•ʔʃ ʅʕ•ᴥ•ʔʃ

[infp-confessions]

did you drink water? eat something healthy? are you taking time out of your day for at least one self care thing? stay strong, babes!

[faestadurmiendo]

i feel like we INFP's are pretty useless, lmao. like other personalities change the world (maybe just cause) with their skills, yet we are the ones who actually want to change it (like, on purpose). and the others were born with actual skills and to do actual useful things like they're liders and artists and math people. but we were born with existential crises. like our destiny and our job is to discover ourselves s and just chill and vibe and try to not be depressed all the time.

[introvertdear]

4 Reasons INFPS Are So Restless

Some say I have the attention span of a goldfish.

INFPs see the world for what it "should be," and this makes it incredibly challenging to remain static in life.