INFJ: Okay, but in all seriousness: am I overreacting? I mean is it even as big of a deal as I perceive it to be?
ESTJ: Yes! It's not nice what they are doing and it's been bothering you for three days, so tell them that it's been bothering you. It's completely irrelevant if that's appropriate. Having that feeling is valid either way.
INFJ: I don't care if my feeling is valid, I care about whether it's appropriate to act on this feeling. It does matter to me what people think of me and I don't want to stop being on good terms with them just because I'm feeling some emotion.
ESTJ: In this situation it's irrelevant if they find your response appropriate. You find their behaviour unfair, so you think your reaction is appropriate. At some point you have to start standing up for yourself. Whether you do that or not is up to you, but you will not get an unemotional factually "correct" response to an emotional question.
INFJ: I don't like emotional questions. I don't want anyone to know I have emotions.
ESTJ: I know, but that doesn't make them go away.