Anger is a beast.⠀ I can bubble up seemingly out of nowhere, explode and pass just as quickly leaving destruction in it's wake, or it can linger for years, like a toxic poison slowly contaminating every aspect of our health, wellness, relationships and success.⠀ ⠀ But did you know that anger is pretty much never the original emotion. Anger is what we call a secondary emotion because it is triggered by other emotions which often feel far more out of control, vulnerable, or scary.⠀ ⠀ Anger is the "enforcer" emotion we allow to take charge when we feel softer, scarier emotions like fear or sadness. Let's face it, fear and sadness often leave us feeling powerless...so their bigger, stronger older brother, anger, is usually summoned to step in and do the dirty work. Anger "feels" more powerful, more in charge. But anger is very rarely (if ever) the root emotion.⠀ ⠀ The next time you feel anger bubbling up (or lashing out), take a deep breath before you do or say something that will only cause more harm, and ask yourself quietly: "What's underneath this anger?"⠀ ⠀ And when the answer comes back "I'm scared," "I'm lonely," "I'm sad," or "I feel helpless," gently ask yourself what you can do to meet those emotional needs other than using anger. Anger never really solves the problem...it just scares the more authentic "feels" back into hiding only to fester and grow.⠀ ⠀ When you feel yourself getting angry, what are your most typical primary emotions?⠀ ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ #bestdamnyou #success #perspective #thegrowingedges #anger #angermanagment #primaryemotions #secondaryemotions #advicefromatherapist #insightgram #entrepreneur #instainsight #ilovemyjob #lovewhatyoudo #lovethelifeyoulive #livethelifeyoulove #feelings #allthefeels ⠀
