Is Dating Anxiety Real?
To be honest, I have anxiety in relation to just about anything. Seriously. The thought of making a final decision gives me a headache and basically makes me want to sleep. Dating - I hate it and I would just like my soulmate to find me and rescue me from the shambles of these corny ass men. Sorry as you can see dating has been a bit annoying.
What exactly is dating anxiety?
I am sure someone just came up with this term a few months ago but apparently it is real. Dating can be a very overwhelming and scary. The idea of not knowing who or what the other person is about can drive the most confident person insane. According to Scientific American, this type of anxiety and shyness leads to avoidance of meeting new people, as well as a sense of isolation and hopelessness about the prospect of finding a suitable partner. To sum it all up, the feelings of not knowing causes us to be cold & ghost. I am guilty - I am she.
The truth is regardless of who you are dating you will never really know someone. Blind date or friends for years, you will never know. Trust and believe even married couples do not truly know each other. Once you get over that, you have to also understand that dating is supposed to be fun. If you are like me you are in your late 20s and it seems like everyone is getting married and having babies - a group I am not apart of. Since I tell myself this everyday I will tell you - do not let the accomplishments of other make you feel weird about yourself. What is meant for you will be for you - and today isn’t your time.
Getting Over It
There is no guide on how to get over this stuff. Dating is a process and so is getting over your anxiety. Everyone isn’t perfect but finding a balance is the idea. Just because he or she doesn’t cross off all the checkmarks in your life doesn’t mean you should give up. Approach each dating situation as a friendship - learn your partner. Everything will be okay girls!