"I'm gonna break your body", "I'm gonna make you scream and make holy sounds", IM GONNA MAKE YOU LOVE YOURSELF.
I think, personally, that emotional intimacy and such is like, decently often, way better than lots of sexual stuff.
Instead of:
Making someone needy/desperate > force them to open up until their a broken mess almost crying unable to function feeling completely out of their depths as their walls crumble to pieces on the floor forgotten.
Instead of sensory overstimultion > someone so overcome with more love than they know what to do with they struggle to comprehend it or really have any idea how their even meant to react to it as they struggle to progress it and just leave themselves in your arms
Dominating someone in sex > someone intimately knowing you control them, that they know in practice they'd listen to anything you'd say and want your approval and a disapproving look could hurt as much as a punch, obeying without orders just to see a smile, the lightest sign of a command enough for full compliance, no need to punish as simply the knowledge of disappointment is already rather hurtful, being their centre, their light.
forcing someone to take it > having someone so submissive and pliant and docile you can simply walk past them blow in their ear watch them shiver then smile and continue on your way while they don't complain a peep. You don't need to ask them not to squirm away, they'll do it allways without request within reason. A simple pat and before you even notice whatever they stopped doing to come to you their already next to you with a smile. Eyes shining with the trust that trusting you and listening to you would, even if they were purely selfish, be a good decision and enjoyable, and it will be of course.
Knowing how someones body works and twitches > knowing every detail of their mind. Their hopes and dreams. The specific way they frame and phrase things in their mind. Knowing how they'll react/think as accurately as they know themselves on average. Being able to, with not terrible confidence tell then exactly what's good for them and what's their limit in a way they struggle to argue against being accurate easily. Wouldn't all of that just make it so so much quicker to just let them lead? Let them think for you. It's not physical, it's mental. It just makes sense. You might as well be an independent extension of them at this point.
Ya know what I mean? Like, not allways, not so often I this this is just better in multiple ways. Basically opening up one's heart is better than opening up their hole(s).
