I feel like it'd be kinda hard to convince someone who'd fully know me as I have many surface level signifiers, but I don't care for the gender stuff and have other explanations for my desires/issues. Surface level signifiers:
if I was allowed plushies I'd love to have tons of plushies, which inlcudes blahaj
like the idea of soft skin more fem hips smaller hands fem shoulders longer hair etc
I like when my voice is quiet and soft, except for when it annoys others im so quiet
I wanna wear more fem clothes though really more so just wanna wear whatever I want especially as male clothing is bland and boring, ending up in practice irl looking like that trans meme girl wearing just plain black baggy clothes.
I like idea of using ":3" even if I'm not confident enough in being expressive to use it
I quite like coding
I like biting skin somewhat
I envy cute anime girls like many online and wanna be cute and confident though not the gender stuff just as a cute/pretty boy in any pretty clothes regardless of gender roles
Neurodivergency
iv recently been getting ads for some trans dating app
Iv watched tons of trans memes and creators
better explaination based on what I know of myself which i think more accurately desribe me:
Im a gender abolishionist, ever since when I was a young child and heard of the seperation of sex and gender I quickly questioned what even was the point of gender then. I think the seperation is must a moderate compromise between/towards abolishing gender some decade into the future. I don't think people should be bound by stupid rules saying what they can and can't do for no reason that a young person would understand. I wish for an age where being trans can't exist because there's no expectations and you can just be and do whatever you want and there's no boxes besides mabye keeping like fem or masc as styles of clothing etc.
Iv generally been both struggling to expressive myself to others irl much and partly because of that plus just men's clothing being bland boring black-grey-white/brown/blue/dark blue/navy blue iv been locked into baggy black clothes for many years, which now manifests as me wanting to do the opposite and try to be more fem and expressive and colourful etc which looks simular but rly I'd take any gendered clothing it's just about wanting to look more alive and don't look like a default npc/depressed kid. Even femboy might not be perfectly accurate as its not just fem it's just expressive and colourful and once I actually get to do so a bit and experiment il likely mellow out into some moderate in between state of wearing whatever. Perhaps softboy is more accurate because I for sure prefer clothes to be comfortable above almost all.
Generally many of my struggles might be more accurately described as mental health rather than gender.
One thing I lack is wanting a few logically inconvenient aspects of being a woman (periods, breasts, being weaker etc),
Whike I watch both trans and femboy memes, femboy memes are usually 10s long individual videos which Is terrible for mass viewing and also they are rather repetitive, white there's lots of trans creators with longer videos reading memes, and trans memes are just really really wholesome on average, and trans memes can be from the pov of someone who is bisexual and wants to abolish gender as close enough to femboy memes.
Anyway ye just a small rant to organise my thoughts on the matter of who I understand myself to be. Really I think labels are overused and in a perfect world I'd just be whatever I end up being, my unique self, and that would be explaination enough.
They ARE a family and I will stand by that with my dying breath. With all of this being said about Shanks and the new Red movie, Doflamingo is there for his kids. This little band of freaks and twisted individuals that life has kicked around to the point they may not be able to be saved, still try to save each other in their own way. Whether it's cranky-ass Gladius telling Dellinger to run away before Hakuba can attack or Doflamingo killing Baby 5's "fiances" because they're just trash men using her, these guys step up.
They are a family, I don't care what anyone says!!
Every time I watch Ralph Breaks the Internet, and I’ll be honest even since the trailers started coming out, there’s something I’ve always been irritated by. While I am impressed that they managed to cast most of the princesses voice actresses to come back for their characters, I loathe what they did to Merida. And I get it, it was their attempt at something comedic. But it always make me wrinkle my nose. How they had Kelly Macdonald perform her lines.
The awkward look of all the princesses, how they say:
“We can’t understand her. She’s from the other studio.”
And I’m sorry, they honestly thought it was funny to make fun of someone’s accent? We can understand Merida in her movie, and for Ralph Breaks the Internet, they literally had the voice actress do her voice different so she could barely be understood.
At first, I used to say it was racist. Because of the other princesses saying, she was from the other studio. Referring to how Brave is a Disney Pixar movie, how Merida was from somewhere different.
Just, I felt it completely unnecessary. That they had to outline a princess and make her seem as if she didn’t quite fit in. I love Merida, and it pisses me off that they did that to her.
Robert Sugden and His No Good Terrible Week (My Speculation)
I am writing this at 3:41 am. I can’t sleep. A lot of posts are pissing me off to the point of no return. So, I’m throwing my hat into the ring. Here is where I stand about Robert, Seb, and The Whites. First off, I hate the Whites. That doesn’t make me a horrible person. They were a sucky Home Farm family. The only good thing they did was bring Robert home and bring Lachlan to Emmerdale. Second, I hate Rebecca. I can hate Rebecca. I’m allowed to hate a fictional character. Third, I like Seb. I do. I don’t blame him for the sins of BOTH parents. He is the most innocent person in this whole story.
Now that is out of the way. This storyline has brought up three themes:
1) Choice
2) Need
3) Want
Much like Aaron (I’ve talked about this in another post) Robert has fought between needs and wants. What he thinks he needs versus what he really wants. He has been acting like he needed revenge, he needed to stop the pain, and he needed to fight for his kid. This is where choice comes in. Robert has had many choices. He has made a lot of wrong ones this past year. Many that lead him down some very dark roads. However, after his wake-up call, those choices will change.
He needs Seb. He needs to start over and be better. However, his choices will change those needs into wants. He wants Seb safe. He wants Seb happy. He wants to be a better parent. That means he might have to put his own needs aside. Make a choice to put Sebs safety and happiness above his own. Something I see Robert doing. It won’t be a punishment. Robert doesn’t deserve any more punishment (regardless what others think). He will want to be a good parent. Make a choice to be a better parent and let Seb go.
So, with that said, its time for a lot of fandom to make a choice to sit back and let the story play out or let themselves be freaked out by anons who want to cause panic because they don’t want to be miserable alone. It won’t be an easy ending. It won’t be a story that ties up all loose ends. It is a soap, after all, got to leave some things open. Instead of dwelling on the negatives as we close out a rough storyline, try to think of the positives that are coming for Robert and Aaron as individuals and together. Not only do we have a reunion and future wedding on the horizon, but we also have a lot of growth of Robert as a person. We have Liv’s storyline and how that affects Aaron and Robert.
JOSEPH TATE. I mean, this year has already kicked butt and taken names, and it's only the second week of January.
Instead of getting upset over the little details that won’t matter in a few months, let us think of the future and how we have so much to look forward to. Again, if you have to step away, please, go take a break from fandom and/or the show. No one is keeping you here. Get better. Come back. Be awesome. Find a bitch buddy. Someone that will listen to you complain without judgment.
So, yeah. I have no freaking idea of any of what I wrote makes sense. It is now 3:55am and I’m finally getting that headache that screams to me that I need to sleep. So, yeah. To summarize.
1) The White Family BLOWS too (stop acting like they are innocent human beings. Not even close)
2) Robert doesn’t deserve to lose everything because some look at it as penance for his evil deeds. He has lost enough. He learns from his mistakes now.
3) The baby isn’t evil. It’s a baby. It has done nothing in this storyline to deserve such scorn. (His mother has but that is a personal opinion)
4) No matter what happens the Whites are leaving. Soon we won’t have to see them on screen or even hear their names. Let’s celebrate that fact.
5) So MUCH to look forward too! JOE TATE DRAMA! I mean…that gets me excited.
So, yeah. That's where I stand. I better get some sleep. Enjoy.
I don’t believe trans women are men trying to access women-specific spaces to abuse them. Not a great majority, anyway. And I don’t believe bathroom laws are going to stop sexual assaulters from going in and hurting women anyway.
I am all for gender-neutral bathrooms.
There is an awful lot of biphobia I’ve seen amongst radical feminists - and a lot of bisexuals who seem to be okay with that. It’s what’s made me so hesitant to learn about it in the first place.
Trans women should not be excluded from feminism.
I will not call a trans man a lesbian/butch, nor will I call a trans woman a gay man.
Trans people are not “delusional,” and the only help they need is that which they get to treat their dysphoria/dysmorphia.
Addicts are mentally ill and are not necessarily at fault for their addiction or the difficulties that come with detox (radfem-gossip had a particularly nasty thread about this sometime back and as a mentally ill person...no. Just...no. This should not have to be a sentence I type.).
While women do face sex-based oppression in developing countries/countries with strict gender roles, it’s disingenuous to imply that trans individuals would tell them that they can “identify” out of their oppression.
Being trans is not a privilege, and to act like they’d be treated better in other countries that are misogynistic is laughable. Trans people exist there, too, and they’re not any more “privileged” for it.
Transitioned bodies are not “mutilated.”
I am a person with a mental illness and developmental disabilities. My gender/sex issues are NOT related.
Again, like the last post, will add on more as I see fit.
we need more men/achillean sapphic yearning or writing
Like ye I get the most sapphic person in history was a lesbian, but given half of the posts on sapphic yearning tag are men/cis men dni I'd like to see more unfiltered sapphic emotional love for them too.
Say..
Yearning fora boyfriend/boy wife you feel comfortable with. Comfortable leaning on like their a immovable rock that you have faith wouldn't break easily allowing you to soften up. Sharing close interests and feeling so cozy as the little spoon while you both watch your favorite show, you being half his entertainment as he makes you feel loved while being so much stronger and larger he envelops you blocking out the world and thereby any worries from you. Squeezes so strong you have no choice but to melt.
He carries you so easily it makes you feel all the more smaller and softer as if you weigh nothing. Yet him letting you do as you please to him as If your the one who could easily fold him, brings forth a confidence you've rarily felt otherwise, until he fights back playfully and wins easily.
Able to just relax as their able to work independently and can cook clean if your sick and happily do so. To rely without fear. To watch with delight how quickly he softens up once complicated genuinely with a degree of softness he didn't think he was entitled to. Letting to see him be all soft and sweet, and remember on it when you see his colder neutral stare in public as you walk hand in hand.
Progressive people bit a bit too much focus on to exact labels and definitions.
like yes, scientifically it's helpful, but let's not forget its not like increasing the number of options from 2 to 100+, its more likely expanding from the spectrum of black to white all the way to the entire hex code, tons and tons of things included like "brick red", the point is you can be anything now, only restricted by practicality/logic (like how love is love doesn't include pedophiles as children can't consent) and besides that you can be any mixture of things.
Instead of A B and C, you can just say what you are: "I'm attracted to people regardless of gender and date based personalty not looks or sex.", if your ready to say it it's hardly much slower and far clearer than labels sometimes.
Its better to think of it as a lifestyle/way of life, expanding what you think normal to everything that works. It makes it sound so much more happy and welcoming this way as a way of life where you can be what makes you/everyone the most happy without arbitrary rules limiting your life.. :D
