I adore your posts on the 5 love languages ;~; Physical touch is my primary one, too. Would you mind sharing personal experiences of advantages and difficulties that you noticed? Thank you.
–> I’m not the kind of person who’s going to be offended by other people being physically affectionate. If anything, I will probably get a little jealous.
–> I get wanting to be able to be physically affectionate, and I get that it’s a sign of intimacy and closeness and comfort between two people – I understand those kinds of people.
–> Being hypersensitive to what different touches mean. You may have thought you were being sneaky but I understand what you meant by that little shoulder tap there.
–> Being that cuddly friend. Some people really enjoy snuggling and once your friends understand that yes, you don’t have a problem with cuddling for half an hour? It becomes very gratifying. And you feel special afterwards. :3
–> Sometimes I don’t need (or even want) full blown cuddles sessions or tackle hugs – the fact is that anything works. The arm around the waist, the shoulder pat, someone playing with your hands: it all works. Obviously some touches are FAR more affectionate to me than others, but all options are go.
–> Sometimes my willingness to be physically affectionate is based on how close or comfortable I am with you. If we’re not either of those things? Please don’t touch me. It’s almost like physical pain to be touched by you.
–> Mood also decides how cuddly I want to be. Sometimes I want it and its reassurances so bad that without it I feel alone and desolate and totally insignificant. Other times I’m so emotionally upset that if people try to touch me, I will get mean. (Not their fault, of course.)
–> People trying to speak my love language when I’m upset. It’s not their fault, but sometimes I feel like it’s incredibly shallow of me to like being touched. So when people try to do it, even when I can feel it working I might be barky and resistant.
–> Being overbearingly touchy with the unsuspecting or the unwilling. The poor dears never know what to do. ^_^’
–> Having spots that I’m overly sensitive about. There are certain areas that I wouldn’t like touched unless I was really comfortable with you and I’ll probably recoil if you try and we’re not tight. For example, I’m wary of people touching my neck, shoulders, and most of my back. For whatever reason, I’m pretty sensitive back there, so someone going there should probably be pretty close with me because I feel it there way more than, say, my forearms. Someone trying to give me a back rub? Oh heavens. That automatically raises the question of what kind of relationship you think we have. O.o
--> Being very cuddly but it’s a bad time for it and/or no one wants to be cuddly with you so you feel very awkward while also realizing you’re giving everyone else a hard time because your brain says “We should probably respect people’s personal space and not shove ourselves on them” but suddenly you have created a pile of irritated humans and you’ve got your back on somebody’s thighs and are playing with someone’s thighs and you have no idea how this happened when you could’ve sworn thirty seconds ago you had a plan and were not going to do what you just did.