#intro to poly

[askpolyquad]

Q: "How did each of you first discover polyamory?"

A: "Tumblr. Seriously. Then I started researching it more deeply, it was really intriguing to me, really clicked."

C: "Tenna shared some things she'd been reading. She was really interested in the idea, I'd never heard anything like it before."

R: "Manda stole my answer! Though I'd seen some things about it on a BDSM forum too, but seeing personal stories on tumblr really lit a bulb in my head."

T: "Through the BDSM scene, actually. Doms with multiple subs isn't unusual, and I found threads about poly on the big BDSM forum I'm on."

[askpolyquad]

Q:"I have fallen in love with a man that is not my husband. I wasn't trying to, it just happened. I want to bring up the idea of polyamory to my husband. What is the best way to go about doing this?"

A:"  Crushes can happen to anyone, regardless of relationship status. Opening up an existing marriage is a HUGE step. Go slow. 

  Start by bringing it up casually. There are a lot of good articles now about non-monogamy. Try linking him to one, saying you thought it was interesting. Pay attention to his reaction to it, talk to him about the article. 

  DO NOT initiate this with a goal of "start dating crush". Move at the pace of the slowest person, which will be your husband. Think hard about your motivations and needs, and your husband's. Communication is key.