#poly quad

[rejoicerevolting]

Our polycule + baby at the beach on his 2nd bday ❤️

@boobsbees @muppetlegs @dullpickle

[alexandthefae]

Here’s my why not date application:

I’m looking for a healthy relationship. (Hopeful for a poly relationship but anything would be fine <3 )

Who am I:

I’m Alex Johnson. I’m 16 (17 in two months), I’m from Michigan and I’m queer. My pronous fluctuate but they/Them is what I most prefer. I’m looking to try a poly relationship, I really have an connection to that but I also enjoy exclusive monogamus relationships as well :)

What I need in a relationship;

Reasurance, trust, COMMUNICATION, openess to ideas, faithfulness, and respect. I will provide the same.

Boundaries for this “application:”

You must be (late) 15 - 19 years old.

Any gender is alright with me

You must be a decent person. No racism, homophobia, transphobia, etc

I’m okay with long distance as long as we have communication and boundaries set in place

Thats all I think :) hmu if you wanna y’all or be friends!!

[thejerrycanssingwithceliacruz]

Poly/Queer Question

Okay maybe this is just me, but as a Queer Poly Person, and okay maybe this is also cause I am single and someone who consumes a lot of fiction/media/etc., but question, anyone else in this boat experience that experience of like watching media/pop culture and like absolutely having those OT3s/OT4s/ wanting to be a part of your own Triad/Quad, but also have a number of like Monogamous Couple Relationships you also find like adorable? And at some points wondering if maybe you would be okay in just a couple? Or is that just me? But also knowing due to past experience... feeling really unsure...?

[polyamorouscultureis]

Communicating honestly with partners when they are doing something that upsets you and talking out problems in a healthy conversation.

[polyamorouspixie]

Reasons I identify with Jodie Whittaker's Doctor

-filled with the urge to kidnap approximately three semi-willing humans and drag them along on whatever adventure slash disaster my life stumbles into

-absolutely no ability to converse with normal people about normal things

-intensely proud of my definitely gay looking outfits that I got in a charity shop

-telling people off for immoral behaviour

-pouting when people won't let me do fun things like having the siren on

-never really knowing if I'm actually dating the people around me or not

[polyadvice]

In a new quad couple relationship. He wants everything equal. Like she comes over here, I should go over there. I don't see that as feasible. They are newer to polyamory than my husband and I. I don't want to upset him or her. IDK what to say or do without upsetting the situation.

In some cases, it’s impossible to have the conversation that needs to be had without introducing a little bit of conflict. 

It is okay to set some boundaries, being gentle but firm. You could say something like:

“I know you want to try and keep things equal, but in my experience, rigid ‘score-counting’ and insisting on exact equality harms more than it helps. It is unrealistic to expect that what every couple does together is perfectly mirrored by the other two. For me, ‘equality’ doesn’t mean ‘everyone does the same thing,’ it means ‘everyone gets what they need.’ It’s a feeling and a philosophy rather than a balance sheet. What makes you feel ‘unequal,’ and how can we address that? What needs do you have? What fears, needs, or desires make you want such exact ‘equality’ of time spent? And how can we meet those without holding our relationships to impossible rules?”

If he is so stuck on this that he insists that the only way for this to work is to adhere to a standard and practice you find impossible, perhaps this is not a person you’re compatible with in a quad-couple arrangement.

[triadoftheday]

Today’s Triad of the Day Is: Stiles Stilinski is dating Derek Hale and Malia Hale and Isaac Lahey. Malia and Isaac are also dating.

[polyamorouscultureis]

"I don't have enough room!"