#ipv awareness

[shelterstudies]

Why Society Disbelieves Black Women: Lessons from Megan Thee Stallion

The way society treated Megan Thee Stallion in her case with Tory Lanez is a disturbing example of intimate partner violence (IPV) and the unique discrimination Black women face, known as misogynoir. Intimate partner violence includes any form of physical, emotional, psychological, or sexual abuse by a current or former partner. It affects millions each year, but Black women face particular…

[afterglownights]

Writing Update!

Hi Y’all! So I’ve been working more than usual so I haven’t been able to write the last two weeks except for the 3 days I had off and I made Bad Kind of Butterflies But I have 4 days off and I am gonna fully use these days to set down and write as much as I can! I am currently working on a series that im very excited to tell you about!!

So right now my list is short of things I’ve planned and created. I appreciate all of you for gassing me up to write more and tbh I’m trying something new when posting a series, and it going to take me awhile to finish it all because I don’t know how long I want the series to go and the series I’m referring to is called...

Ruthless | Koh!Tom Holland Au!!!!

Summary; Y/n is an archangel in Heaven. She is asked to attend the annual realms meeting that takes place in Hell. As the newest addition to the archangels, this will be her first time in Hell. What happens when the King falls in love with the archangel? Who will save the King when his demons turn their back on him and try to assassinate him while he is asleep?

Series Release Date; 02-14-20!!! *Chapter One, Prologue is coming soon!*

One-Shots 

Untitled Koh!Chris Evans ( cause there is literally none for this au!) 

Release Date; 03-27-20

Must of Been The Wind | Tom Holland ( IPV Awareness writing )

Release Date; 12-22-19

I told y’all it was a short list! Well there y’all go! I hope y’all have a good evening/night/morning! I love y’all xoxo

[denofhorrors]

“[For victims of coercive control] any decision- to return to school, take a job, seek legal assistance, start a diary, buy a new bra, even to cook something new- may be interpreted as a sign of disloyalty, independence, resistance, and worse, and so is permeated with a sense of dread of a corresponding constriction of freedom. Women’s fear that their stolen moments of autonomy will be detected, invaded, and evoke physical or other reprisals can be so intense that they pre-censor “dangerous thoughts” that might lead to independent action and harm.”

- Evan Stark, Coercive Control: How Men Entrap Women in Personal Life, 2nd ed. Chapter 7, "The Theory of Coercive Control"

[denofhorrors]

“Literal confinement is common enough in coercive control. […] As frequently, however, men deploying coercive control prevent escape and exposure through a spatially diffuse pattern of rules, stalking, cyber-stalking, surveillance cameras, beepers, cell phones, and other means that effectively erase the difference between confinement and freedom by extending surveillance and behavioral regulation to all those settings where victims might restore their identity or garner support, including work, school, church, service, family, and shopping sites.”

- Evan Stark, Coercive Control: How Men Entrap Women in Personal Life, 2nd ed. Chapter 7, "The Theory of Coercive Control"

[denofhorrors]

“In contrast to the forced access involved in capture crimes, the privileged access partners maintain to their victims is the most important explanation for why abuse is ongoing, even when partners are separated. Privileged access reflects five interrelated factors: the presumption of intimacy; the personal knowledge that intimacy affords; claims to exclusive possession or “property rights”; the material benefits associated with possession; and the failure of outsiders to effectively intervene. […] Property rights are also expressed more generically by a controller’s insistence that he set the terms for every encounter. If a woman tries to walk away from an argument or refuses to get out of bed in the middle of the night to review her faults or tries to separate, she is reminded that the lecture, interrogation, sex, her job, or the relationship “ends when I say it ends.” The ultimate expression of property rights is the right of disposal, illustrated by the statement that frequently precedes femicide, “If I can’t have you, no one will.””

- Evan Stark, Coercive Control: How Men Entrap Women in Personal Life, 2nd ed. Chapter 7, "The Theory of Coercive Control"

[denofhorrors]

“The context of the development of women abuse is male domination. Male domination is no more immutable or inevitable than racial supremacy or other dominant-subordinate relationships based on biological or social inheritance. Instead, it forms and reforms to meet the progressively more potent challenges posed by women’s moves toward independence and liberation. My argument is straightforward: that men have devised coercive control to offset the erosion of sex-based privilege in the face of women’s gains, filling the void created as institutional support for male domination is disassembled by installing patriarchal-like controls in personal life. […] Coercive control is designed to obstruct the equality project by subverting, diverting, and co-opting the resources, capacities, and efforts of individual women to meet the narrow self-interest of individual men […] To implement coercive control, men must personalize their dominance over women by piecing together the remnants of structural and cultural constraints on which male privilege depended in the past and tailoring the resulting strategy to their individual relationships.” - Evan Stark, Coercive Control: How Men Entrap Women in Personal Life, 2nd ed. Chapter 6, "The Paradox of Equality"