It’s interesting to note that Azula makes a very serious effort to reconcile with her brother, to show kindness to him, and to fix her broken relationship with him. It’s futile. It doesn’t work, in the end. Likely it never could have worked, with the shadow of Ozai hanging over the siblings. She doesn’t manage to repair her relationship with her brother, and by the end of the series it’s worse than ever. Her efforts to show kindness to Zuko (see “The Beach”) never lead to Zuko attempting to show kindness to her or to him even slightly reevaluating his perception of her. In fact, her attempts at reconciliation lead to her losing everything: her friends, her father’s favor, her favored position, her freedom, even her sanity. It’s worse than futile.
Yet her attempt says volumes about who she is as a character, about who she wants to be a person, just like Zuko’s attempt to save Zhao at the Siege of the North says volumes about who he is as a person, even though it was futile and likely impossible(odds are the spirit of the ocean could pull an awful lot stronger than a 16 year old).
Could Zuko, Ursa, and/or Iroh have “saved” Azula within the confines of the story of Avatar: The Last Airbender? Could they have caused her to take a different path, caused her to avoid her canon sad fate? Perhaps, but likely not, especially considering that Ursa and Iroh barely understood even “saving Zuko” as an objective. Does the fact that they combine for zero on screen acts of kindness toward Azula still speak volumes about their characters, about who they are as people?* Does the fact that Ursa and Iroh show no empathy toward Azula still say a lot about who they are as people? Does that fact that Iroh demonizes his abused 14 year old niece while giving his abusive, imperialist asshole of a brother a pass still speak volumes about who he is as a person? Yes.
The manner with which Azula’s “good” family members treat her is far more about them than it about her.
*Note: I mostly give Zuko a pass on this, for obvious reasons, but it still says important things about his character and his relationship with his family.












