#isa garcia

[not-a-fever-dream]

A few days ago, a friend told me that happiness is not everything. I think he’s right. Happiness is good, but it doesn’t change a person the way hurt does. It does not challenge a person the way pain will. We grow—my goodness, do we grow—from the bad stuff. So the reality is this: The dark clouds are here to stay, not forever, but for now. But the silver lining? Well, it’s this: There is a part of us that can only be found in sadness, in anger, in despair, in defeat. And that part is precious. It is the place where courage is built. And courage, my dear, is worth it. Let me tell you what I know to be true: You deserve happiness. You really do. But more than anything, you deserve wholeness. And today, this dark cloudy I’ve-lost-my-joy day, is a part of being whole. I’m sorry that things are difficult. I hope that you can be brutally honest about how you feel right now, even if the only person you admit it to is yourself. Happiness is not the ultimate goal. It is not everything, but it is a part of everything. Even now, though you do not feel it, you are learning to be brave.

Found: Letters on Love, Life, and God by Isa Garcia

[blackthornadoes]

An Open Letter to God

Dear God, Sometimes I avoid mirrors altogether because I can't stand to see the angles that make me look bad. Sometimes I won't look in a mirror for days. I'm always jarred when I catch a glimpse of my reflection. In those moments, the person staring back at me is both strange and familiar. I don't understand how that is even possible, but those are the rare times I am really able to surprise myself. And my relationship with mirrors remind me so much of You. Sometimes, I hide from You whenever I think that I'm ugly. And sometimes I keep my distance whenever I think that I already know everything about You --- every side and facet and angle. But then I catch a glimpse of You --- sometimes it's in something random like a tree, or in things as awesome as the sky, or the way a mother loves a child. It's just a moment, yet everything changes afterwards. You're both my home and the unknown. I know You, but at the same time I don't, not really. I don't understand how all these can be equally true, but they are and maybe that's beautiful too. People who love You say that it's easy to love you, but sometimes I'm scared because You are so infinite and immeasurable --- and, really, what does my tiny human heart even know about loving someone like that? The truth is, I know so little about You and so little about love. The older I get, the more I think that holiness is less about being pure, and more about having the heart to try and to keep trying. Because we're never going to get it a hundred percent right. Not in this lifetime. Maybe it's not even about perfection, but the quiet hope for it. And maybe perfection isn't what we believe it to be. Because, really, who's to say? We know so little. We know so very little. Here is the little that I know, not for sure, but for now: My hope lies in Your power to make the world different. By different, I mean better. By better, I mean beautiful. You can make the world beautiful. I know this with all of my heart because I've seen it --- in sunsets, in babies, and in flickering stars in the sky. I've seen it in the way a man loves a woman, in the capacity of the wounded to forgive, in the kindness of strangers, and in the courage of heroes. I've even seen it in me too, in a few times; Your golden goodness turning me in somebody worthy, somebody loved. Maybe in writing this, I'm finally facing the mirror, seeing all the sides I've been avoiding. Maybe I'm looking at You, really looking, and maybe I'm finally letting You see me too. Maybe (who knows?) that is the only way to love someone who is infinite. Love, Your daughter who is still trying to figure it all out.

[awkwardpotatooo]

You should date

To the girl who never stops dreaming of romance.

The person I want you to date exists and I want you to wait it out until you meet him. Because, in case you haven’t met yet, you will. Waiting is for the brave - it means watching the years pass, noticing yourself growing older. It means sitting through wedding after wedding after wedding. Waiting means bottling that slow-rising fear. It means questioning your standards and running the risk of settling for second best.

I wish someone had told me that the person I was meant to be with was a real, living, breathing person in some part of the world and waiting, too. I did not believe in romantic destiny, so I projected all my hopes onto the wrong people. Then I tried desperately to make these wrong people right. In the end, no one won and the aftermath was a combination of devastating grief, self-loathing and crippling regret. I do not want that for you.

Wait.

The person I want you to date might be making morning coffee right now, or sleeping through a thunderstorm, or getting a degree in physics. Wait. I mean it. Anyone else will be a mere imitation of the real thing.

The person I want you to date believes in big things. This person has a passion and pursues it with a hunger that can set the world on fire. This person believes in setting goals and making them happen. Trust me, you won’t regret being with someone who is madly in love with a purpose in life. When you meet this person - this unstoppable ball of good fury - I want you to have a vision of your own, a goal you can shape your life around. I want you to have a desire to change the world, whatever pocket of it you belong to. You can’t be stagnant when the person you’re with is active and dynamic. Life is a grand celebration of doing great things that matter and you (yes, you) play a huge part in it.

The person I want you to date has character. When you’re young, all you’re looking for is a personality. Charm. Compatibility in music, book, and food preferences. These are well and good, but character is what sustains a relationship when all of these things change. Personality is ever-evolving, but character grows and amplifies with time. A person with character does beautiful things without seeking credit. A person with character doesn’t quit. A person with character graciously expends back-breaking, heart-wrenching love to someone who has not lived up to expectations. Character is that beautiful thing that gets molded over time and experience. Be someone with character and never settle for someone without it.

The person I want you to date will be into you. Really, really into you. There will be no need for pointless mind games, no room for even the slightest bit of emotional confusion. The person I want you to date will be crystal clear about his intentions towards you. He will not try to win you over with sweet nothings or romantic gestures. The love you are waiting for will be bigger that the superficial trappings of courtship. The person I want you to date will take the time to get to know you, see everything there is to love about you. He will look at all the bad stuff and not balk. That person will not run at the first sign of ugliness, but will love you through it.

But I also want you to know that the person I want you to date will fail you. Give that person grace to be human. Don’t listen to those stupid quotes that tell you that the person who loves you will never make you cry. I want you to realistically approach this thing we call human relationship. Hurting one another is part of the messy dynamics of getting close to someone. But the person I want you to date is someone who knows how to resolve conflict. When things blow up in both your faces, that person will not hesitate to admit mistakes.

And when it comes to loving you, you will be sure. You will be so sure. You will be certain of their love for you, so certain you would bet on it. It will be the most painfully obvious thing in the world. You will come to question many, many things in life, but that love won’t be one of them.

And you know what? That person will believe in you so much that you will never feel compelled to question yourself. You will put all your insecurities to rest because the person I want you to date will, more than anything, make you feel you matter. Always. And you know why? Because you do.

I’m sure it sounds like a long shot, but what if you dared to believe that the person I want you to date is real? Love is greater than cynicism and this is what I believe - yes, me, the last single girl in the world: While some people think this all sounds too good to be true, there is a God who is out to give us things that are much too good to be false.

Believe. Don’t settle with just “good enough.” And in the meantime, become the person that the person you’re looking for is looking for.

With love,

A girl who believes that the best is yet to come

[monstersturntotrees]

[garotaempreende]

Chegou a Páscoa. E agora?

Com a chegada da páscoa uma de nossas duvidas é, será que posso comer chocolate?. E a resposta é claro. O cacau tem em sua composição polifenois que possuem uma ação antioxidante, protege as células contra o danos em seu DNA e também características anti-inflamatórias, auxilia na prevenção de câncer, previne placas de ateroma (aquelas gorduras que ficam nas paredes das artérias) e é antimicrobiana. Sim é real, comer chocolate faz bem e tudo isso já é comprovado. Mas para termos todos esses benefícios é preciso tomar alguns cuidados na escolha do chocolate. Por isso seguem as dicas:

1.     O primeiro passo e um dos mais fundamentais é ler o rotulo. Quanto mais simples de se entender e menos ingredientes estranhos tiver melhor. Procure sempre aqueles que venham com o primeiro ingrediente da lista o cacau ou massa de cacau, sendo o açúcar um dos últimos ingredientes.

2.     Prefira chocolates em que a maior parte de sua composição seja o cacau, aquele famosinho 70%, é uma ótima opção pois isso indica que somente os outros 30% serão dos demais ingredientes mas, se for fã do amarguinho hoje já encontramos nos mercados chocolates 85%.

3.     Não caia nessa de chocolate diet. Esses chocolates possuem realçadores de sabor como glutamato monossodico, adoçantes sintéticos e são cheios de gordura ruim. Então volte para a primeira casinha e leia os ingredientes pois esse será o diferencial da sua páscoa.

Não se esqueçam, não exagerem nas quantidades, pois o fato dele ser saudável não quer dizer que não seja calórico. Uma ótima páscoa a todos!

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[monik-rose]

“y ahora, tacho la palabra de cuatro letras del cuaderno negro como tacho mi nombre como tacho mis huesos”

Isa García