#jaspis hate

[bittersnakes]

Lapis Lazuli

So i couldnt resist and saw the trailers and by the look of things Lapis is gonna be selfish and betray everyone She is taking steps backwards in terms of development So for the moment im back to hating her again, i really feel bad for peridot Im gonna continue watching Just ignore Lapis But i swear if i see Jaspis in SU im gonna drop it entirely

[sadhoc]

Hey saw your post about being proud of self care and want you to know it made me feel bit more happier after an emotional mental breakdown last night from a lot of stress recently. Thank you for posts like that and also I'm so glad someone else dislikes Jasper from SU, I just don't understand how people ship her with lapis or anything like that.

Also I followed you, I'm a woman with depression and anxiety 27.

Thank you so much!!! i’m really glad that my post was able to help you

and yea jaspis is... not my ship

[haroldhutchinsofficialremad-blog]

*claps hands*

jasper stans think a literal 14yo child is mean for being afraid of or not wanting to talk to a gem that tried to kill him and the crystal gems more than once and wants him dead

*bangs pots and pans together*

jasper stans think that jasper’s a ~poor baby who needs love~ and that nothing that happened with malachite is even her fault at all 

*plays a bass drum*

jasper stans think the only reason people call jasper abusive is because lapis is ~small and tiny~ and jasper is BIG AND STRONG and they trivialize the abuse by throwing “you just hate buff women” at people addressing it

*crashes cymbals*

jasper stans think that lapis’ “i enjoyed it” and “i miss her” lines were proof of lapis ‘admitting’ that she was evil and abused jasper, despite the fact that they’re examples of classic self-blaming things that abuse victims say 

*sets off fireworks*

jasper stans think jasper’s “you’ve changed me” line meant that jasper had actually changed and was broken from being held prisoner as malachite, despite the fact that “i’ve changed, it can be different now” is literally one of the lies abusers tell to their victims to try to get them to stay

*leans in close and whispers*

((every redemption idea i’ve seen from jasper stans involved the crystal gems seeing from her point of view and sympathizing with her, and not the other way around, because they don’t think jasper needs to change))

[chaosblast]

PSA that if u ship jaspis u should

unfollow me immediately because lapis doesnt deserve to be shipped with her CANON ABUSER lol fuck urself

[redandfranticfeelings]

"I hope lapis keeps missing jasper" shut the fuck up

[haroldhutchinsofficialremad-blog]

a year and a half ago i was close friends with a super toxic person. i almost dated him, even though i was fourteen and he was almost eighteen, and i just pushed down how uncomfortable and unsafe i started feeling once things got romantic, because i thought that was how it was supposed to be (i hadn’t really dated before), and looking back, i realized how much of a bullet i really dodged there

the point i was making with this post is that seeing alone at sea was really, really nice for me personally, because through the whole confrontation i was really honestly unsure of what lapis would do. everyone is saying it was so predictable what would happen, but i was actually scared that lapis would say yes, and go back into a situation that would hurt herself (as well as jasper, but lapis was the one i was afraid for). i know jasper will be back, so seeing her get punched into the ocean felt honestly more relieving than anything else

so like, i relate to lapis. a lot. i’m so glad for alone at sea- she apologized for the things she did to steven and greg, she had some genuine fun with steven and greg on the boat, and most importantly she had the willpower and sense to realize how bad malachite was and how much she needed to stay away from the fusion.

and it seems like a lot of other fans feel similar to me. this episode was really good to see for them! and i’m really glad about that

the people who say she’s abusive and steven was cruel for ‘siding with her’ in alone at sea honestly make me sick though. i really wish tumblr would fix the broken blocking system, because every time i see a person like that on my dash my stomach just does another flip

[jaspis-is-dead-blog]

so with the whole jaspis thing yes that relationship is toxic and unhealthy, for jasper and lapis. However, with what people ship i know there are going to be headcanon and Au were japser and lapis try to work things out and become healthy relationship or at least on good terms. The show is mostly likey going to be awille for jasper to return but also with steven help i’m sure try and help them make amends without the romantic of course just my two cents. Totally fine if you don’t like the ship.

I don’t really understand the point of this ask? Are you saying that I can’t prevent people from shipping Jaspis? That the show will ultimately give Jasper a redemption?

It’s not just disliking the ship. If you’ve read some of the asks from yesterday, you’ll see many feel the same way as I do.

Jasper directly quoted my old stepfather, who mentally abused my mother and I for 6-7 years. Many others have said that Jasper has quoted and/or said something shockingly similar to their abuser. Jasper is very much painted as manipulative, abusive, and controlling. Without getting to much into the discourse, that much is obvious.

The best I can hope for is to try and educate people on Jaspis’ affect on real people’s lives and feelings, and how supporting it, platonic or otherwise, can be harmful for both us and the children watching the show. If you have a question, I would love to answer it. But otherwise please try to understand that this blog is created both for education and support for those of us who have survived abuse, are being abused, and for those who recognize the ship for what it’s written as and are uncomfortable or disgusted by Jasper and jaspis fans. If you would like to know my feelings on headcanons, I responded to an ask earlier that may help.

I do appreciate your politeness, however. Thank you for being civil!

-Mod Lapis

[haroldhutchinsofficialremad-blog]

Ok i dont even follow SU anymore but this whole debate as to wheter or not mutual abuse is real, growing up in both an mentally/physically abusive home, (1/2)

im gonna tell you that yes both partners in the relationship can be abusive. Watching the shit my parents did to eachother for 16 years has scared me from ever wanting to be in a relationship

okay, i really wish people would stop mistaking the difference between an unhealthy relationship and an abusive one. anon, i feel you. i grew up in a mentally/emotionally abusive home until i was thirteen. this is in no way an attempt to invalidate what you went through. but there’s a difference between your experience, and mutual abuse.

the very nature of an abusive relationship is that there’s an imbalance in power. if both individuals in a relationship are equal, they can be toxic and harmful for each other, and the relationship can be an unhealthy one, but it can’t, by the very nature of the term, be abusive. abuse is when one individual specifically has power over the other. mutual abuse isn’t real.

edit: i realized there’s something else i forgot to say. if there’s a relationship like that where the couple has a child, it is abusive to the child, because the parents are in a position of power over the child. such as in anon’s case and mine. the relationship between the two people is not abusive, but the child is in an abusive situation. everything else i said still stands

i talked way more on the subject in this post, so i recommend you click on that because it includes extensive explanations + sources