Jul 27
people being like "omg no you shouldn't feel shame about that! What is this? The medieval ages?" feels the same as when a doctor is like "You're too young to be having these symptoms! You should be fine!"
Even if it's true in a broad sense it's completely unhelpful to the individual, dismisses their feelings and experiences regarding the matter, does nothing to actually help them work through their crap, and completely ignores the reality that people grow up in very different environments that shape their perception of themselves and the world around them.
#not gonna get into details but honestly I'm referring to several different things#like I'm very happy for you that you grew up in a nice and loving environment#but some of us had shame pounded into us from a very young age and gosh darn it if it isn't a bull ride to confront#talking to secular upper class white liberals feels like this a lot of the time ngl#just venting... sorry chat