How to Release Jealousy and Anxiety in Your Relationship.
Am I good enough?
Is he/she cheating?
Am I secure? Should I have a backup plan?
How long will this last?
First, identify where the problem is coming from. Notice your own insecurities and how they manifest outward. Are they focused on the idea that your value is defined by outside forces? If so, these forces change, looks will fade, money comes and goes, people change as do their preferences. If your happiness and source of power depend on outside energy then you will always lose. Learn and understand yourself and how you were raise. Who taught you about love? How did love exist in your home growing up? Did it? Do you understand your perception of love? What things/thoughts should you release regarding love?
Stop competing with outsiders (or your partners)
Learn what you bring to the table outside of material needs
Understand that differences create the fabric that weaves you two together
Second, find your way of being, in the relationship. Allow him to fill in the voids. Understand that you have a special place in your partner’s life and a role that no one else has. You are their lover, encourager and friend. This is a place that a mother, sister or brother cannot fill. Be confident in that space and learn to make it benefit your relationship and their life.
Your way of being: Do you listen to them and see them clearly? How well do you connect? Are you able to see weaknesses while also support opportunities? Being this close to someone allows you the advantage to help them grow. What do they need? How can I encourage them to reach their best potential? Who do they need me to be in order for them to grow and learn?
Be the giver of these things. Ask these questions instead of asking questions like, am I good enough?
Lastly, continue to work on yourself. Be your best self throughout the time. Do not slack on working out and being creative as an individual because your partner may feel stuck after a while. In building yourself up and overflowing with energy and confidence you can now be secure without issue in your relationship without question.
