do most of ur close friends have eating issues? how does the effect you? who are ur best friends? are they where u went to high school or in boston? tell us about them and why ur there friend? What is their strength and weakness? what are urs? this is partly to provide a distraction break 4 u and partly so I can read as a distraction LOL
Yeah I would say most of them do have eating issues, or at least a history of eating issues. It does affect me sometimes, depending on how I’m doing with eating. If I’m not doing well, I try to limit my time eating meals with them. If someone is actively struggling, I can handle occasionally eating with them, but it can be hard. My best friends are Bri (who lives in Miami right now 😭 but is moving back in June!!!), Em (who lives in NY 😫), and Jess (who lives in NH 😔 but is at least the closest!!). No, I didn’t go to high school in Boston! I went to four different high schools 😁 (Seattle, Utah (therapeutic), Montana (therapeutic), and a different one in Seattle). I met Bri at our college five years ago (she’s graduated now). I met Em at 3East almost six years ago. I met Jess I think two years ago? We met through tumblr. All three of them are recovering from EDs. Bri is a teacher and loves dogs and Macklemore and Taylor swift (and country music). I’ve spent a lot of time at her house over the years so I feel pretty close to her family. She’s silly and we loooove dancing around and singing together. We’ve really connected over music bc we have really similar tastes and have gone to a few concerts together which were awesome. We’ve also connected over food, now that we’re in recovery and we have a long list of fav restaurants and cafes we go to when we’re together. We also have a shared love of anything Christmas. She’s incredibly supportive of me and has visited me at more treatment centers and hospitals than anyone else in my life. We’re able to use the fun times together as motivation to keep going when we’re in dark places. Although she still struggles with some ED thoughts, I would say she’s near recovered. She’s been out of any kind of treatment for over two years and isn’t even in outpatient therapy anymore. She serves as a huge inspiration for my recovery. Em is passionate and intelligent and deeply caring. She loves reading and writing and is the best poet I’ve ever read. Some of her poems she’s written me make me cry every time I read them. I don’t know if I have anyone else in my life who accepts me so completely for who I am and nothing more or less. I don’t have to try around her. I don’t have to say or do anything; I’m enough simply as I am. And that is more comforting than I can even put into words. She just accepts and loves me unconditionally. I hope I make her feel even half as secure and loved as she does for me. She was also close to Sam, my best friend who passed away in 2011, and I found (and still find) immense comfort in talking and crying about her to Em. She still struggles with her ED, among other things, but has always done everything in her power to be supportive of me and not trigger me. We are always honest with each other if we’re not in a place where we can be around the other or can’t hear about ways in which the other is struggling. Jess is amazing and so inspirational to me. We’re very similar, both in our interests and, unfortunately, in some of our struggles. She loves cats (and has an awesome cat of her own - Lucie - who is totally adorable) and Taylor Swift and anything horror. She’s one of my only friends who likes horror (I love it) so we’re always watching creepy YouTube videos or going to new horror movies in theaters. We have gone to Nightmare New England the last two years so I think it’s become a tradition. She has some serious chronic medical issues which is part of why she’s so inspirational to me. It would be so easy for the medical stuff to influence her ED behaviors but she still works so hard to combat them and fight as hard as she can. I admire her courage and strength so much. Hmm as for my strengths, I consider myself to be a good friend, passionate, good with kids and a hard worker. My weaknesses are that sometimes I don’t take care of myself and I can be really selfish when I’m entrenched in my disorders. I’m sorry I didn’t answer this sooner! Thanks for asking 😊
