Sometimes, people aren’t going to be nice. A lot of times, actually. Your books are nice and the fantasy worlds they’re all about are amazing, but they’re very different from the real world. There are cruel people and rude people and people who will pretend to be your friend and only talk shit about you behind your back. None of it is your fault. Don’t worry so much about what they’re saying to you. Some people might have some good advice, but you don’t have to listen to what everyone tells you. You don’t have to try and change yourself or feel bad for not trusting someone after they haven’t given you a reason to.
Don’t be afraid to talk to people! Especially people you want to be friends with. If you miss out on the chance to apologize or say hello and start a friendship a long time before they leave, you’re just going to be upset with yourself in the end when you’ve lost your chance. Take the extra step, smile and say hello to that person you’ve wanted to talk to in the hallway. Be comfortable with yourself and stop worrying about what people think about you! It’ll be hard at first, but when you let it go and love yourself as much as you can (even just the tiniest bit!!!) you’ll feel so, so much better. Trust me!
Don’t let your friends completely shape your opinions. It’s fine to listen to them and look at someone a certain way, but remember that it’s going to be up to you to decide how you feel about someone. You might not be as popular or well-liked as some of your friends, but that in no way makes you any less of a person than them. You’re beautiful, wonderful, and you’re still getting used to life and what you think! Stand strong in your beliefs and causes.
Don’t be afraid to experiment with who you are, either. It’s alright to have second-guesses as to what you might identify as, who you like. And there’s a big chance it’s going to change! You don’t have to tell everyone, either. You can start slow, small, test ideas and the waters. Even if you make mistakes, it’ll be alright. Just take a breath, don’t worry. People will understand. If they don’t it won’t be worth it.
And most importantly, if anyone tries to guilt trip you or convince you your problems aren’t ‘too bad’ because they have it worse, don’t listen to them. You have every right to be upset or to not like someone based on your experiences, and no one in the world has the right to undermine your feelings. At all. Be strong, be kind, and continue being beautiful.