My ex with a laundry list of issues that I had to navigate everyday to keep her calm and an inability to be alone without self destruction: “if you spiral (get upset and angry at NOT HER) again I don’t think I can support you.”
My ex: tells me I remind her about her ABUSIVE ex because I get angry for being repeatedly disrespected, disappointed, invalidated, and ignored, even though I never directed that anger towards her
My ex: guilts me for things I said during last breakup without actually understanding why I said any of it, assuming I just say things to be mean and not to tell my feelings
My ex: doesn’t tell me where or what he’s doing, not replying to anything while being with friends, despite ALL EVIDENCE I HAD said he was playing games, doesn’t communicate what he WAS doing, gets angry at me for overthinking and compares me to his ex for getting upset
Me: *sobbing about finding out she lied about my exes feelings, and after having my ex tell me he doesn’t love me or see me romantically at all*
My ex: yells asking me why I can’t get over it and just watches me sob harder after telling her I can’t get over a broken heart