#laisai

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laisai replied to your post: i need to figure out my health insurance so i can...

are you studying cool things?

not at the moment! i’ve had no luck with balancing school and work and my health. 

but someone on the post is studying nursing and they’re currently taking  pathophysiology and i find it fascinating! 

[i was pre-med with a psych track]

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laisai replied to your post “I followed you for tolkien way back in the day, stuck around although...”

Same actually, I followed you for Tolkien and now I find you're in MXTX too? I was really excited

there are dozens of us!!!

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imindhowwelayinjune replied to your post “Do allosexual women actually talk with friends explicitly about their...”

depends on the friends and the context, but yes definitely. sometimes it's only with people i trust and have known for ages (i have very close friends i never talk about it with too, it just depends) and sometimes, in the right group, it just happens even if we're not super close and it becomes a random, often hilarious, sometimes powerful point of connection. for sure not universal, for sure contextual, but definitely a thing that i experience. (also when i say 'yes definitely' i didn't mean 'i can conclusively state it's normal for all allosexual women'! just 'yes definitely that's a thing i do.' i also would say that not all the friends i talk explicitly about sex with are allosexual. ideally i try to follow the lead of whoever i'm with in terms of how explicit talk gets so as not to inadvertently make anyone uncomfortable, but i've definitely fucked that up before.)

thebyrchentwigges replied to your post “Do allosexual women actually talk with friends explicitly about their...”

We do? A third of the time it's budget sex therapy/venting, a third of the time it's recommendations (books, toys, fandom hotness), and a third of the time it gets awkward/doesn't take off. As the Sex Positive Friend I may be in line for more of these conversations than others.

Okay, this is interesting to know. Like, the close friend who does sometimes talk about sex to me doesn’t really get explicit and only brings it up as it relates to other topics we were already talking about, but I didn’t know if that was just because it was me? I mean that’s been the case since long before I identified as ace but.

I struggle with knowing who would be receptive to that kind of discussion, mostly because part of my ace-ness is that I feel the intense need to distance myself from sex in other people’s perception? Like, I do pretty much everything in my power to prevent people from seeing me as a sexual being because it makes me so uncomfortable, so the notion of talking to even close friends about actual sex with actual people (vs. like, talking about sexy fic or whatever, which doesn’t bother me a whit) is pretty alien to me.

nicxan replied to your post “Do allosexual women actually talk with friends explicitly about their...”

I'm on the asexual spectrum but I have spoken about my sex life with only my closest friend. Idk how people just do it with anyone. And I don't mean that in a judgmental way it's just ..... how

laisai replied to your post  “Do allosexual women actually talk with friends explicitly about their...”

a lot of chinese americans (like me) don't. it might be a cultural thing, but it's just...only white girls have talked to me about their sex lives. im fine with talking about it, sort of, but im really unused to it so it's uncomfortable to a degree even though i know i'm not ace

I feel these two answers on a visceral level. It’s like, any time I even try to talk about anything VAGUELY sexual that’s not at a great remove from myself, the words literally freeze up in my throat. Like I can’t even talk. It’s not like a trauma response or anything, it doesn’t matter whether I’m trying to talk about good stuff or bad, it’s just so deeply uncomfortable.

Interesting to know that it may be cultural! ETA: For some folks. Obviously I am a white girl and it is not cultural for me, just A Thing I Experience.

roadgoeson replied to your post “Do allosexual women actually talk with friends explicitly about their...”

... I'm having flashbacks to being stuck in rooms full of straight allosexual friends and being unable to politely escape the graphic sex talk. I guess it's probably common enough?                  

Hnnnngh yeah the time I was stuck in a car with two women I really wanted to impress and could not figure out a way to say “I don’t want to know about your boyfriend’s anal beads” and still be cool

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laisai replied to your post “disastrous lwj/wwx/jc modern (?) au”

I SHIP THE OT3 HARD pls do it

Hello, fellow OT3 shipper! If only I had the strength to wrangle these three together into the same fic. orz

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laisai replied to your post: wondering if I should change my url on here back...

Wait, YOU’RE beleriandings?! (hi I love your fic, I did not know you wrote it ��)

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! YEP THAT’S ME, omg thanks I’m so glad you like it!!!! :’)

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laisai ha risposto al tuo post : friends which tolkien character would have an...

celegorm would probably keep one for fun, and also to annoy maedhros

celegorm would keep at least 15 animals in his bedroom and an additional 3 in the living room, to annoy Everyone, Ever 

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laisai replied to your post:                Fic meme: 16 + Elrond & Elros                

   This is quiet and heartachingly lovely    

oh wow, thank you so much. that is such a beautiful compliment and i am so gratified that you feel that way :)

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What's the name of the cream? I doubt it can be bought here but maybe I could find something similar/under another brand/with the same agent for the weird spot under my ankle.

(hope you don’t mind me publishing + some replies because people are asking me about this now :’D)

Ahhhh okay so! There’s a cream called Protopic (Tacrolimus monohydrate. The 0.1% is the one they gave me, ie. the stronger dosage) which is a non-steroid cream so you can use it for slightly more longer-term things. That’s what I use for kind of small outbreaks.

For anything worse, I use Elocon (0.1% mometasone fuorate) which is a moderately strong steroid cream, but this is the one that is super effective for me when it gets really bad (especially on my hands). This dosage is likely overkill for a small patch of eczema though so a lower percentage might be better if it’s just a small area, I don’t know :’D (Because it’s steroid-based you can only use it in small bursts anyway because you can become resistant to it and also it can have the side-effect of thinning the skin if used longterm, which is kind of yikes)

I don’t think either of these will be available over the counter (at least they’re not in the UK) so you’d likely need to ask a doctor to prescribe them. However! I also use an over-the-counter moisturiser which really makes a huge difference, usually either Oilatum or E45. These are both just plain unscented paraffin-based moisturisers, so there will definitely be an equivalent to this (but I guess as with everything check if you’re allergic first, it took me ages to try to find ones that I liked that didn’t fuck up my skin longer-term ;___; both companies also make liquid soap if you have problems with those drying out your skin which I sometimes do)

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laisaireplied to your post:        Having an eczema outbreak and then getting…                

   I just read through your tags and I CAN SO RELATE, i still have eczema but now its morphed and im resistant to the creams i used to use :’)    

Ughhhhh that sucks :’( I would suggest maybe go to a doctor and ask for a different cream? Ugh I hate the resistance thing so much, it’s such a problem especially for the steroid creams, especially since they’re so effective otherwise. But they now have other creams like the Protopic one I mentioned above, for which this isn’t a problem? Those are newer, and I think it’s a developing area? Which is probably good news for all of us?????

cross-cultural-microwave-studies replied to your post: Having an eczema outbreak and then getting…                

   niccceee my eczema correlates to the amount of angst i experience but creams are magical   

Oh my god saaaaame it’s always stress that sets it off (well…. also, other things that set it off include heat/sweat, time of menstrual cycle, specific foods, whether it’s dry or wet outside, seasons, pollen in the air, various types of cosmetics and soaps, dishwashing detergent, literally fucking anything and nothing, but yeah I feel you on the angst thing it’s the WORST <3 <3