In your most recent reblog there was this pictire that said something along the lines of “i dont date bi people because one minute they like dick, but then go ‘i miss vagina’ bye” or something like that. And I resonate with it a little bit because im scared of that happening to me if I date anyone again... and i know I sound like an asshole, but my heart cant handle that pain again... i dunno why im asking this but does that make me a piece of shit that I dont wanna date again because of that?
Okay so, I’ve been trying to think of a good response to this all day and... I’m sorry to say I’m lousy at giving dating/relationship advice because I haven’t dated anyone since I was 18 and that experience was a giant clusterfuck, I haven’t bothered since and 14 years later I’m still purposely single aaayyyy! So in this case I’m definitely the worst person to ask because any advice I could give I feel like it would make me sound like a hypocrite lol.
But I want to try and give you something that might help or make you feel better and more confident, because it sounds like you had a bad experience (I’m sorry if I’m wrong on this, I hope I’m wrong but that’s the feeling I get from your message) and it’s understandable you’re wary and I don’t want you to feel that way.
So I asked my good friend @simplyhaythamtastic for some advice and I’m just gonna post what she said here, because she makes good points.
So, and you can tell them this came from a friend who is, in fact, bisexual. I am in no way offended.I'm so sorry someone who likes two genders did that to you. That's low and awful. What's worse is, it doesn't represent the gross majority of the bisexual community. I've been married for 8 years, together with my partner for 14. Not once did I think of a woman. Not once did I think of another man. Not because I'm a saint, but because I'm a good partner.
It wasn't the bisexual tendency that hurt you. It was the asshole. The asshole who -no matter what gender they dated- would have used their sexuality as a lame, stupid ass excuse.
Regardless, at the end of the day, who you date is up to you. No, you're not a bad person. You're hurt. You don't blame a person who got bit by a shark for fearing sharks. I only ask that you bare in mind it wasn't because this person was bisexual. As long as you know you deserve better and this person doesn't define bisexuals for you, no. No you're not a piece of shit. I only hope you heal and get the relationship full of trust you deserve.
I hope that this is of some help to you. She’s right. Some people are just terrible and their orientation has nothing to do with it. So please don’t let what you saw in that post stop you from trying to find the right person.❤️