Not that kind of Girl by Lena Dunham
“Anyone who makes you feel like you’re invading their space, anyone who tells you that they “just can’t be alone right now” Anyone who doesn’t make you feel like sharing bed is the cosiest and most sensual activity they could possibly be undertaking. Now, look over at the person beside you. Do they meet these criteria? If not, remove them or remove yourself. You’re better off alone.”
“When someone shows you how little you mean to them and you keep coming back for more, before you know it you start to mean less to yourself. You are not made up of compartments! You are one whole person! What gets said to you gets said to all of you, ditto what gets done. Being treated like shit is not an amusing game or a transgressive intellectual experiment. It’s something you accept, condone, and learn to believe you deserve.”
“I obviously like you a lot. Not in a scary progressive way and not in an “I just came looking at a picture of you” way but in the way that I am going out of my way to make you a part of my life, or just to figure out what it could be.”
“You’ve learned a new rule and it’s simple: don’t put yourself in situations you’d like to runaway from. But when you run, run back to yourself.”
“And one day you’ll get out of bed to pee, and someone will say “I hate it when you leave,” and you will want to rush back. You’ll think, stuff like this only happens to character played by Jennifer Garner, right? but i’s happening to you and it keeps happening even when you cry or misbehave or show him how terrible you are. He seems to be there without reservation. He pays attention. He listens. He seems to want to stay.”
“But I also think when we embark on intimate relationships, we make a basic human promise to be decent, to hold a flattening mirror up to each other, to be respectful as we explore each other.”
“You will find, she says, that there’s a certain grace to having your heart broken. I will use this line many times in the in the years to come, giving it as a gift to anyone who needs it.”
