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This is the time to talk how exactly compulsory heterosexuality (comphet) affected me and in what ways trough my life, this is more of an intro post and a personal story.
When I was young I was always told that “guys should look after me and will pay attention to me eventually, that will make me happier and just be essential with time”. Even back then I didn’t understand what so cool about dating a guy? What makes him so special and why each girl should do this somehow? That it brings kids? Isn’t our planet already overpopulated? Some people can be child free? Even when I was small I didn’t really care for this “aspect of happiness” and therefore wasn’t affected compulsory heterosexuality due to my young age and attitude - I didn’t see my future where I settle down with a man.
Everything has changed when I thought I caught a first crush for a guy since everyone around me already did and it so cool. It wasn’t cool and it wasn’t a crush in the first place, it was a first example of attraction I needed to unconsciously fit in. After this I’ve developed another one-funny how both of guys were unavailable and of course ones I made in my head. Back then I couldn’t even bring myself to a thought that it was comphet. After I’ve finally came with terms that I was lesbian all along (May of 2022) and was repressing my attraction to women, I explained it as an attraction to men didn’t feel so real as it is to women, plus I’ve never had an attraction to men who were available and ones who were available were pushed away by me (literally lol). Even when I did so I couldn’t give it a name and just thought it was my unique experience and people don’t usually deal with it…I was wrong.
In one of my previous posts I shared a lesbian doc: it says that having attraction to unavailable men (fictional and ones unavailable irl) not seeing your future with a man and just feeling as this attraction is forced - is a huge sign of comphet (you can read it for yourself).
However, the story doesn’t end here since trough those almost 2 years I couldn’t live without having a damn crisis. I went back and forth from lesbian to bisexual - all due to same reason and wanting “to fit in” aka being forced into standards by compthet- the past issue like this is no easy to fight with even after years of being sure. I’ve never in my life felt legitimately sexually and romantically attracted to men. I can recall liking several girls and women and it felt real and not forced. Funny enough how despite getting romantic attraction almost never - I felt it for woman anyway. So all my “crises” ended in their own when I recall that comphet is still there and can affect anyone so it’s important to outline an issue so your true self won’t have to hide away.
In the end, I believe that it takes a while to spot and realise your comphet, how to fight with it and seek similar experiences. Don’t worry - being a lesbian is beautiful and no one should tell you otherwise <3
P.s I will make more posts about my exact experience with it so stay tuned!
👩❤️💋👩Love for y’all, stay safe👩🏻❤️💋👩🏽
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Women and non-men that love other women and non-men are so freaking valid no matter what journey you went on to get here
Normally I post dsmp art but guys c'mon this is fucking beautiful and needs to be seen by everyone
Happy lesbian week of visibility!! Super valid!! (Wish I did this on monday or sunday tbh)
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Happy Lesbian Visibility Week!!!!
Have this image (using the CORRECT flag) that uses a Techno quote (:
(I am not a lesbian so if this is at all disrespectful, let me know so I can take it down!! /srs)
This Pride Month remember to include lesbians and the lesbian flag in your general pride posts! 🧡🤍💖
NO WAIT
TODAY IS
A V E R Y SPECIAL DAY
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🏳️🌈💖💝 HAPPY LESBIAN DAY EVERYONE!! 💝💖🏳️🌈
👏👏👏 Y’ALL ARE VALID AND LET N O ONE TELL YOU OTHERWISE!!!! 👏👏👏
I LOVE Y’ALL AND KEEP BEING AWESOME!! EVERY ONE OF Y’ALL ON THE SPECTRUM(S)!! THOSE WHO ARE CLOSETED!! NEURODIVERGENT!! OF COLOR!! A L L OF Y’ALL!!! THIS IS Y O U R DAY!! SO HAVE FUN!! we’ll be right here, by your side 🥺💖💝💖💝
ok NOW it’s time for my break AHWHW BUT I 🥺🥺🥺 OUGHHHH 🥺🥺🥺 I HAD TOOOOO 🥺🥺💖💝💖💖💖💖
Not to get too political but.........
Trans and nonbinary lesbians are valid and beautiful as Fuck.