Violence
“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate. Only love can do that.” – MLK
October 12th, 2018
As human beings we depend on each other. No one wants to be alone and neither does anyone ever want to feel left out. It is certainly important to know how to be alone but that isn’t necessarily how we would like to end up. In my perspective a lot of violence that occurs today I believe has to do with filling some sort of void. What do you think? For example, someone who’s had a rough upbringing in terms of food; stability; housing; etc then suddenly commits a crime on an innocent victim. For some crazy reason the media or others are all shocked. I always wonder why people are shocked by that when it is clear based on the person’s history that that could have been a possibility. Anyways, something within is what drives violence. Whatever component that is missing in one’s life can have a massive effect on how they deal; manage; and cope with things. What leads to violence is the inability to cope therefore verbal or physical harm is then placed on another. I believe that there is a direct connection between violence and this idea of “alone.” When I say alone I mean the feeling of something missing or wanting something there that is not. That could be objects, humans, whatever it is that is missing for that one person. Or even something that they long for that they never received. Again violence and “alone” correlate in my head. When you really think about it isn’t it sad that something missing within a person is what could potentially drive violent behavior? If you knew what every single person was missing wouldn’t you want to help fill it so that violence would never be something they perform? Well, I would. I think the only reason I would is because of my strong fear for violence. I myself have never been the violent type and it really takes a lot in me to act violently. I usually tend to shut down or walk away instead of physical or verbal violence. It’s like my brain has a hard time going there. I’ve been there before briefly but never ever for a long time. I wonder how the brain of a violent person works or looks like. That is a weird way to put it. I think I am rambling now. Anyhow, I deeply deeply and truly truly fear violence. It is actually one of my biggest fears. In the past I’ve been involved in various violent episodes performed to me and honestly when I think back to those times it’s hard to describe it because you when you experience any sort of violence it’s amazing how your brain forgets all the small details. Guess that’s what they call trauma right? Well if you’re reading this stop for a second to think about your life as a whole. Think about any forms of violence you’ve endured either physical or verbal and also think about any form of violence you’ve performed. Once you are able to identify either or ask yourself what emotions came up for you during that moment of reflection. Then make a difference. Either forgive yourself or tell someone else that you forgive them. Make a pact within yourself to spread more love instead of violence or hate. Lastly, remember to walk away from extreme situations where you feel that you may be losing control of yourself because this world is fucked up enough no one needs to experience more TRAUMA so don’t be the person to add some to someone’s life.
