"Why did Ben get to play on the computer at the library and I didn't?" Ethan was 'losing it' at 7:30 pm this evening as soon as I got home… My kids know better, they know to mind their own business, so I answered “because I love him more” It always works!!! they know that we love them all the same and they also know that if they want to earn something it is never because someone else got it but because they deserve it. So if they want a better answer they must ask a better question 😊 My response did the job, I looked at my E as he was calming himself down… I heard him whispering to himself… "what is the solution… what do I want?". 2 minutes later he came to me and said: "What I really want is to play on your computer for 30 minutes, this is what I want". (He got it!!!! he can't take the time back, he can't go to the library at 7:30 pm and he can't change the past so he focused on what he CAN do). I couldn’t refuse! Looking for the solution will help you get there, focusing on the problem will most likely keep you there!!! Notice where is your focus and navigate it, if needed!!! For more practical tools, Join me this coming Sunday 04/07 11am Levine JCC #mindfullness #parenting #lifecoach #lifecoachingtools #coachingtips #takeownership #beaware #notice #workshop #charlottejcc #therulesofthegame #teachthemyoung #lookforthesolution https://www.instagram.com/p/Bv12gPqJgYl/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1vs9pnv5poud4