in light of a lot of recent events I feel it necessary to reiterate: my girlfriend and I are twenty-something year old college students. we love you all dearly and want to offer you advice but we are not mental health professionals who can provide the care that some of you need. I also understand that not everyone has easy access to mental healthcare depending on their situation. but still, I am a closeted college student with so much going on in her own life. I'm not a machine, guys, and it's breaking my heart to see people struggling, but it's also breaking my heart to watch my girlfriend suffering and feeling helpless because she's trying to stop a bunch of people on the internet from making poor choices. it's negatively affecting us both personally and as a couple. both our inboxes will be closed indefinitely and we'll probably posting around here a lot less. we are trying to help and provide people with resources to get help but you can only help someone who wants to receive that help. so as much as I hate that I even have to make this sort of disclaimer: we love you and want to help you logistically, emotionally, and even financially if possible, but ultimately we are not responsible for what people choose to do or not do with the support we try to offer them. we can only offer. please respect our privacy at this time. thank you. - ehj