Day One: What does dominance mean to you?
I’ve started another 30 day writing challenge thanks to the amazing individuals at Loving BDSM. They have a free 30 Days of D/s email program that provides topic prompts delivered daily to your inbox. Please check them out and support them. They also have a fantastic podcast.
So, let’s begin..
What does dominance in a relationship mean to you? What traits will a Dominant have? How should a Dominant behave?
When I first started my journey into D/s, I definitely had an idea of what made for a good Dominant. An ill-formed idea. My ideal Dominant was grown from erotica, pornography, and forum posts based in fantasy. They were fiercely protective and loyal. But also strict, harsh, and no nonsense. When Sir would give me a break, show compassion.. I’d almost feel betrayed. Like it was wrong in some way. I had a narrow view of dominance.
After living our power exchange relationship for some years now, I’ve come to realize that a good Dominant is one who is suited to whatever dynamic they’re a part of. One that serves their relationship. Someone who knows themself and their charge. So my new idea of what dominance looks like in a relationship is flexible. My relationship, my Dominant, and his dominance doesn’t have to look or function a certain way to be right. To be good. Nor does anyone else’s.













