The Destructive Narcissist
He is his own worst enemy. Over and over again, he will self sabotage. Anything good happening in his life will be destroyed, obliterated. And with the entitlement of a narcissist, he will expect you to put up with the chaos left in his wake. Already on his path of destruction...he has no job, ignores the kids and is constantly getting caught talking to other women. But because you are out of weed, he will risk his health by going out to chill during a pandemic...after curfew. He will then expect you to risk your health and that of your children by letting him back into your home. His ignorance won’t let him see past his own needs. His need for libations preceded his concern for his family. So in a moment, he’s destroyed his entire existence as part of the family he helped to create.
This is the habit of the destructive narcissist. Deep down he feels worthless. He feels as though he doesn’t deserve anything good in his life. And therefore, ruins any chances he could possibly have at a decent life. He will fight, beg and plead to get back in good. He will say(not do) anything necessary to get back to his beneficial position. He will make empty promises, swearing to never destroy what y’all had again. And as soon as you break, soon as you allow him back into your world of peace...he starts back on his path. It is in his nature to do so. And because of this he will repeat this endless cycle for the rest of his life. There is no changing a narcissist.
The destructive narcissist inflicts pain on himself out of feelings he is not consciously aware that he is feeling. All the trauma, feelings of guilt, low self esteem and pain are buried deep in his subconscious mind. These feelings may not be felt outright, but are shown through his actions. He may portray himself as above it all. As if he’s better than everyone else. But if he’s constantly doing things that could potentially ruin his life, the low sense of self is apparent. Unfortunately for the destructive narcissist, it will cause him to lose everything. He is incapable of self reflection, and will destroy his life over and over again. And blame everyone but who’s responsible...himself.
