And that my friends is the reason why Kara was with that manhell. She lost her parents. She lost her planet. She lost her entire world. She lost her purpose here on earth when she found out Clark had already grown up. Even Clark left him to the Danvers. Lucy left. Cat left. All her life she felt alone. She’s been through so much and the moment she saw everyone was happy, she felt even more alone. She wanted that too for herself.
That’s why Kara just settled with the first person that showed her interest. During the pilot we saw Kara struggling with being alone, having a failed blind date. Hearing how her date didnt like her. With James it was different. Kara had a crush on James but James had Lucy. Even if James treated her right, Kara probably felt like she never really had James’ heart in the first place. Then Mon-El entered the picture and at first she didn’t even expect he liked her.
So the minute someone showed Kara that someone could actually like her. Only her and not anyone else. Not a second choice. Kara jumped into the idea, ignoring how she was actually being treated. Because tbh, Manhell knows her secret. It’s easier with him because Kara doesn’t have to lie about her identity. Even when mon el was already gone, what bothered Kara was being alone and she told Cat that maybe relationships are just not cut out for her.
So Kara just settled in that kind of relation ship because she was scared of being alone. Many people do settle which is quite sad actually.
Anyways, that's why even if I didnt like the guy, I still felt bad for Kara. Because once again, she's left alone. And even during times like this when she really needs someone, she doesnt let what happened to her be a hindrance to people's happiness. Even when she needed her sister the most, she told Alex to be happy and be with her girlfriend. She wanted everyone to be happy. Despite everything, she was still prioritizing other people's happiness.
AND THAT MY FRIENDS IS KARA BEING SELFLESS ONCE AGAIN. AND I HATE THE WRITERS FOR DOING HER DIRTY THIS SEASON.