#marriage stuff

[johnmarstonrp]

What does Abigail do that annoys you the most? And be honest, what do you do that annoys her the most?

What she does...God, where to start? She...nags. Not about the big things. I expect that. It's the little things. The way she'll rearrange the tools I left out, and then I can't find the damn hammer. Or she'll start cleaning a gun I just finished cleaning, like my work ain't good enough. She gets this...tone. Like I'm a fool who just tracked mud into her spotless house. Which, to be fair, I have done.

But the worst...the worst is when she gets that look in her eye. That disappointed look. Not even angry. Just...tired. Like she expected better and I went and proved her wrong again. A man can shout into a storm, but you can't shout at that. That's worse than any cussing.

What I do...

I know what I do. I go quiet. She wants to talk things through, to fret and plan and worry a problem to death. And I...I just stop. I shut a door inside myself and I go out to the barn or I just stare at the wall. It infuriates her. She says it's like talking to a stone. And she ain't wrong.

I reckon...she thinks my silence means I don't care. But it's the opposite. The words get stuck in all the...the mess in my head. The past. The things I've done. Sometimes the quiet is the only thing holding me together. But she can't see that. She just sees a stubborn mule.

......you ain't gonna tell her I said any of this, are you? I'd never hear the end of it.

[darkfictionjude]

How would the Ros react at their wedding with Mc, seeing Mc enter the church

I like this ask because this is something that you’ll never seen in-game.

Imre:

He doesn’t smile. He barley moves a muscle. But the way the daylight reflects off his eyes is telling. They don’t stray from your face. You see many emotions there: admiration, fondness, care, fascination, desire and above all, love. When you do reach him though, he does give one a smile, a small hidden one away from the world.

Nia:

She picked out what you were going to wear but even so you see her eyes widen almost imperceptibly when you enter. She lowers them quickly and gives you a rare smile. She decides to screw tradition and walks down the aisle to meet you half way as she can’t resist touching now.

Lorcan:

His mouth drops open. He look seconds away from a heart attack. He doesn’t know what to do with his hands so he awkwardly shoves them in his pants. He looks terrified and his eyes roam all around you. When you reach the altar although he looks like he might die the grip he has on you hands is sure and strong.

[paleimitation-if]

giveaway q&a part 2

obligatory cheesy scenario question— how do the ros react to being proposed to by mc? ( or - if marriage in isekai differs from irl customs - what’s their reaction to whatever the equivalent is? )

Sola: Overjoyed. She'd already be calling you her wife/husband/partner and you'd have to keep reminding her that you're not actually married yet. Assuming you chose to propose to her with a ring she'd be so torn over not wanting to take it off, like ever, and also knowing it would get scratched up during training. Eventually compromises by wearing it around her neck.

Aleksandr: He'd be pretty surprised. Not in a "Why are you doing this all of a sudden?" kind of way, but in more of a "Crap, they beat me to it" way. He definitely had a ring Specially Made early in your relationship, and even spent a long time choosing a meaningful stone for the ring. He'd somehow be very happy and taken aback at the same time.

Nicai: Malfunctions. I think this would genuinely be one of those rare times when he actually becomes speechless. A total blank-stare-and-slack-jaw moment. He'd accept, but probably after he takes a long moment to process because there's nothing but fireworks going off in his brain.

Malis: Mage proposals are usually officiated by the Tower since an engagement traditionally involves one or both parties receiving an enchanted item of jewelry from their prospective significant other. Malis would be really insistent that they propose to you first for that specific reason, but you'd end up practically dragging them away from making the jewelry because they would keep trying to work on it to make it Perfect.

Ren: Marriage literally wouldn't have crossed their mind until you popped the question. Just a knee-jerk "???" sort of reaction. Subconsciously I think they would've already thought the two of you as an unit already so I don't think they'd mind making it more official. It'd just surprise them, haha. Definitely gets really into planning the ceremony.

[mzyraj]

Vote in my wedding poll:

[aritany]

no hang on just wait for the person who likes you better when you unmask

[teamtuttle]

Personal rant because if I don’t say it into the void, imma scream!

You know, some days I reallly wish I’d never started reading romantic fiction... it’s just painful now. Rubbing in my face what I don’t have. Even when I ask for it again and again.

I was young when I met and committed to my husband (who is older and the first person I’d ever successfully surpassed adolescent flirtation with) and I didn’t know how to be assertive about what I wanted and needed in a partner. I don’t think that I even knew I needed more. I was just so starved for anything and so appreciative of what I was getting in the honeymoon phase. By the time the honeymoon phase would have ended, we were already knee deep into parenthood of two back to back babies. So it wasn’t until about 5 years in that I even started to notice that I was in love with and made a life with someone who seems to be able to live quite happily without regular intimacy and affection.

I am an identical twin. I shared the womb! I SHARED A FETUS FOR A TIME! I CRAVE physical affection like its air! And I swear to God. There are entire days that go by where I’m lucky if I get a peck on the lips. That’s it. Not even a brush of his fingers on my hip as he passes by...

Now, I know he loves me. He shows me in many ways. But we all give and receive love differently. And I have said time and time again that I need him to physically love me. Both innocently and maturely. And he laughs it off like it’s a silly pet peeve I have over how he loads the dishwasher...

How the actual fuck did this become my life at 33? And how the actual FUCK have a communicated this to him multiple times and not gotten anything in return?

I honestly never thought this would be a problem I would be having in my marriage. When I was a young girl, I feel like EVERYONE was painting this picture of marriage where the wife would be forever faking headaches to deter her husband. And my life (and those of many of my girlfriends) couldn’t be anymore opposite... I did not sow my oats. I did not play the field. I waited until I found someone I loved and trusted and made a life with him. And I feel so completely unsatisfied with the lack of affection and intimacy and sex in my marriage. And it’s devastating. It’s going to be a long conflicting lifetime....

[so-i-did-this-thing]

THE RITUAL IS COMPLETE. THE CONTRACT HAS BEEN SIGNED. @crowtoed and I did the Do this morning.

[warpcorewarrior]

Do you have trouble sleeping when Tom isn't there?

When we first started spending nights together, I barely got any sleep, which was not great because I need my sleep. I hadn’t ever done a lot of actual sleeping with another person before. I would be instantly wide awake every time Tom bumped me or moved or even breathed loudly. 

Tom is a very tactile person and a cuddler. He always wants to be touching (at the very least) and prefers to have a lot of contact. Spooning is his favorite sleeping position. I’ll admit that it took me quite a while to get used to all of this. But now, I love being his little spoon; it’s become my favorite way to sleep, too. 

When Tom’s not next to me, not touching me, not puffing breath into my hair, I don’t sleep well at all. Don’t tell him I said that. He doesn’t need his ego stroked. He also doesn’t need to worry about me not getting a good night’s rest when he can’t be there. He is my calm, my comfort, and I miss him very much when he’s gone.