The pinned post
I'm a bi, middle-aged (48), married trans man (started HRT at 33)!
With a few exceptions, I am pretty niche with my fandoms.
Expect a lot from AMC's The Terror (season 1), and Channel 5/PBS's All Creatures Great & Small (ACGAS).
Read more for cosplay & project highlights, trans stuff, as well as links about my wardrobe, the cats, my home decor, hiking pics, and why I block people who say I look like Sam Reich.
Some things I've made
Cosplay Highlights:
The Adventures of Mark Twain: Mysterious Stranger
All Creature Great & Small: Siegfried Farnon: gaiters | Vonolel the rat
The Terror: Francis Crozier: coat | goldner tins
Chernobyl: Valery Legasov
Discworld: Sam Vimes
Fallout 4: Nick Valentine 50's clothing WIP | Fallout 4 inspired gladstone bag | Fallout matchbooks
Critical Role: Percy de Rolo
The sexy sexy Halloween costume costume
Other stuff I've made:
The Terror stitch projects: Hodge's Papist Aunties monologue | Blanky's Boat Axe monologue | Hickey's final monologue
Grumpy mushroom guy
Armfish holiday card
All Creatures Great & Small holiday card
Pacific Rim Coloring Book
Reconstructed leather desk blotter
Season's Greason's ornament
Eraserhead Baby Labubu
About me
My degree is in oboe performance and while I played and taught professionally nearly 30 years, I'm mostly retired from the music world. I also worked in advertising about 20 years and now work in civic tech. I have about a million hobbies and like making things.
Some of y'all assume I am British. I'm sorry to inform you that I'm not only American, but I'm a Southerner. That's like, Double American.
I heavily dress vintage 1930/40s.
On finding my style.
Where I find most of my clothes (in need of an update as I'm trying to prune out lower quality and fast fashion brands)
Where to shop second-hand
Some grooming products
I also have a lot of tattoos, which seems to blow a few minds.
My spouse is @crowtoed. We met on tumblr in 2013 in the Pacific Rim fandom. Our fandoms don't always overlap, though.
Trans stuff
I've always had a strong male identity. Came out at 19/20, but got shoved back in the closet and didn't start HRT 'til age 33 when I crashed out at rock bottom. Got top surgery at 40. Changed my name at 45. Did a bunch of career changes in this time, and clawed my way out of poverty, too.
My "trans stuff" tag has a ton of stuff. It's a mix of moods, from humor to recent news in the US.
An evergreen article I always recommend.
Pics of me at key ages
Y'all like this one a lot, too
Beard timeline | general beard advice
My voice
My top surgery diary is here
A little bit on my hoarding, likely triggered from closet trauma
Getting over feeling like a screwup
Fanfic: I like transing characters for my current fandoms, and my latest (all affirming trans masc stuff) for All Creatures Great & Small can be found here (locked for members only to mitigate scraping).
The world is on fire, but I'm trying to find joy in small things
If you need to de-stress a little, I have several years of nightly photos of my cats under my âgood nightâ tag. I started doing this on Twitter in 2016. Current cats:
Dexter: ginger, rehomed to me as a 1 year old when friends moved out of state
Ada: calico, found in our front bushes
Pidge: brown & black tabby, found at an anime con
Bertram: medium-haired void, FIV+ and adopted from a cat cafe
My house: I recently moved from a 2000 condo into a 1940s cape cod. I am a maximalist and love antiquing and DIY. Decor is a WIP and you can see progress here.
Other random cool shit I find is tagged here.
How I'm doing: If you haven't caught up with me in a bit, I fled Florida in late 2023 and now live in New England. So, expect lots of new hiking adventures. I have survived federal job cuts so far.
Stop telling me I look like Sam Reich -- I will block on the first offense
My petty block is people saying I look/dress like Sam Reich. Please learn how to read clothes. I don't watch his show; his wardrobe and mine are nothing alike, are about 80 years apart, and we communicate wildly different personas through clothing. Too many people in the past tagged him into my posts, so I just block on the first offense now.
Unless I am in cosplay or deliberately evoking a character's vibe, "hey, you look like so-and-so"s are some of the most derailing, annoying, often demoralizing (Villains? HP characters? Really?), and least interesting comments I get.
Please stop doing it - for 15+ years, I've been told all sorts of unwanted, rude and unhinged comparisons, even to my face, because people don't take the 2 min to see what my interests actually are. And I'm so tired of it.
That said, I won't get mad if you tell me I look like Siegfried Farnon from All Creature Great and Small. He's been my gender envy since age 9. And seeing how much I coincidentally look like his 2020 version made me decide to take the plunge into a mostly vintage wardrobe. I am deliberately evoking him (especially since we have similar faults), so it's fine to acknowledge that.
On Asks
I use my judgment on public/private answers to Asks, but if you have something particularly sensitive because you don't want to be outed or something, just ask for a private reply or go Anon/use a burner account.
I try to answer all of them, but I do get overwhelmed sometimes, especially when my ADHD gets bad or I'm otherwise mood cycling or in an autistic rut.
Thanks for stopping by! And feel free to say hi if we're at the same event (like Dragoncon, for example)!













