I lost myself in the project that was Steve for decades, I see that clearly now; total immersion. And the moment I met Helen and began to pursue my own interests, he bolted. The moment he was no longer the centre of my every waking thought… gone. So, what have I lost? He didn’t need to reveal himself to me as he’d always been that person. What was different this time was that I saw and believed who he was, finally. And not a decade too soon. #TooRelievedToGrieve | https://amzn.to/2Y4sC0s (link in bio) #dontloseyourself #lostyourself #marriage #marriagetraps #boundaries #boundarysetting #knowyourself #liveyourownlife #marriagecollapse #codependency #codependenttraumabonds #traumabond #traumarecovery #divorce #divorcecoach #breakupcoach #toorelievedtogrieve #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #karanscottauthor #karanscottcoaching #karanscott #memoir #truestory #reallofeevents #authorlife #writerslife #authorsofinstagram #authorsofig https://www.instagram.com/p/CfBOFmNIAih/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=