#marriagetroubles

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Govinda wife Sunita has revealed some shocking details about their marriage . Sunita Govinda's wife stated that he scared to touch women.

[norakitsosa]

Dudas

Retomando el tema anterior...no entiendo como es tan dificil para alguien que lleva 4 años en una relacion con alguien el dar una respuesta certera y sencilla. ¿Deseas o no tener hijos? Si la respuesta es si...¿ En cuanto tiempo desesarias tenerlos?

Duele escucharte hacer comentarios frente a tu familia de indole “Ella (osease yo, su esposa) siempre se pregunta ¿Como nos saldran los hijos? Con eso de que soy muy moreno y ella muy blanca”. ¡Pero que le sale natural al Señor! Quien lo escuchara pensaria que lleva toda su vida aceptando este pensamiento. (Is he just faking it? Acaso no se da cuenta?

Se me revuelve el estomago que bromees sobre formas en que me molestas a diario y digas “Ya quiero decirle a los hijos que te molesten igual”. Say what ? ¿Pero que clase de señales deseas mandar?

¿Por que aun no quitas la frase “baby here” en ese complicado plan financiero que me compartiste en linea?

Simplemente, he dejado de entenderte y escribir aqui es el unico consuelo que tengo en vez de gritarte, reclamarte o exigirte respuestas.

[norakitsosa]

Feelings

It´s being a while since I tried writing something deep and meaningful in English and it comforts me that not a lot of people read this blog of mine which usually just contains pictures and silly gifs. 

No one said marriage was easy but I am positively sure that most of the people that like me walked the aisle a while ago had this idea on their minds that their marriage was going to be different and not alike those marriages that crumble and fall apart months or years after they professed true love in front of god and oh boy how wrong was I. 

I love my husband very much do not get me wrong, every single one of his annoying little details that make him unique I have learned over 4 years of relationship that I would not be able to live without them. 

I guess nobody was born knowing how to cope with other people´s dreams and routines. Every once in a while you need to step back, look at the big picture and just take a deep breath. Relax and take it easy just as Mika said in his song. Do not take things personally with your partner as I bet you have flaws as well. 

Try to stay positive and everytime you hit a negative spot in your life as a couple sit down and type all of what affects you, let it out and try again. 

Marriage should be a happy roadtrip (ups and downs included) not a rollercoaster ride, those are joyful, exciting and full of adreline yes but they end after a couple of seconds. 

[iamthawing-xo]

My "Crying Out Letter" 😞

Dear Love - I've been thinking about this all day. Spacing out and staring off into space wondering. Not wondering if I should write this, but how to say most of what I think needs to be said in the message. Today has been one of the most stressful days of my life. My hands have been shaking, my legs feel weak, my stomach is in knots & there is an unbearable weight stacked on my shoulders. Within this week, we've been dealing with a lot. With you not sure if you even wanting to be with me and me fighting for you to believe me that I don't want someone else. But now, I'm not sure if the fight was even worth it. I look at our marriage, this life that we've built together and I'm not even sure where to start to pick up the broken pieces that are scattered at my feet. I don't know how we got here, how we got to this broken spot in our lives. And it's scary, honestly terrifying. Because there use to be a time in our marriage were we didn't want to even picture of the idea of either of us without each other. The word divorce use to bring tears to our eyes. We used to love the company of each other, even if it was cuddling and watching a movie or walking through the forest areas. I used to feel at home and safe in your arms, a sense of peace when you texted me just for the heck of it. But that seems to be gone. We seem to talk about divorce more than our future life together without shedding a tear (well on your part, I still cry thinking that a divorce is possibly in our near future), time apart seems to be favored more than time together, and I worry more about what you have to say when a text comes in. I wonder if fighting was worth it because I feel alone. I feel absolutely alone & like I'm drowning out at sea and I'm the only one in miles. It honestly kills me. I ask you for things that I need to hang onto our marriage & I'm met with a heart-stabbing "okay babe, I'll work on it" or "idk what to tell you, shit happens or things change". It just knocks another piece of my hope for our marriage because if all these ideas we've built together in the past two years could change, why couldn't your love change for me over time? But that's the problem, as being the one who receives your love - I feel that it has changed. I don't feel like I'm the girl who breathes the air in your lungs, I'm not the girl who makes you feel alive, I'm not the girl who holds your heart in the palm of her hands, I'm not the girl who you would die for. I feel like some ordinary girl, like every other girl who has walked into your life. You say that I should know how you feel about me, but like you said: "it's sad if you don't". It is sad because I'm not sure. I feel so behind and lost in this marriage, when this marriage use to bring so much comfort and safety to my life. I look at you & I want to see the guy who I fell in love with 2 years ago. I pray that he's still in there somewhere, that maybe he's trying to break free from this tough exterior that I'm constantly being met with. And it terrifies me to not recognize the man that I'm married to. It worries me that I won't have that man back. It scares me that we've come to a point in our marriage were we love each other, but we aren't in love with each other. I'm worried if we are just in love with the idea of each other, of a family, the dog & the house with the white picket fence that we never had as kids. I'm worried that I want to make it work so bad because I feel that if owe you something because you were the one person to love me when I was nothing but a broken soul. I'm scared, I truly am. I can't keep reaching out in our marriage, I can't keep being hopeful if I'm just going to be met with the same "oh I'll work on it" attitude that I've been met with. You should want your wife to know she is loved, you should want me to know that I'm missed. You should want me to know that I don't have to go anywhere else for affection, because you overwhelm me with affection and appreciation. But that's not the case. I'm scolded with the idea that "I should know" or that you'll try or that you need "space" or a "breather from life". How would you feel if I just seemed to give up on caring about you? If you needed to know that I loved you, missed you, appreciated and was grateful for the fact you were in my life & I shot you down with the words: you should already know that. Can you sit here & say you've given all that you can to show me the things I've asked for? If I were to say that I wanted it to be over, would you be able to say that you did all that you could? Because you might be walking a tight rope, but so am I. And I'm leaning to the edge. I'm ready to just throw in the towel & give up. Maybe you deserve someone better than me, maybe some other girl would do a better job in my shoes. And that's something I never thought would ever come from my mouth: that maybe someone else could love you better than me. So I'm asking, I'm pleading that you give all to our marriage OR lose me forever. I'm asking that you remove that tough, wounded exterior that the military has made you build up. That you remove that hard exterior that was built from a household that love wasn't given in. I ask that you remove the armor that guards your heart from the fear of rejection or being hurt & allow my husband to come back. I'm asking that you come back & stop pushing me away. I'm asking that you look at how far we've come, how many things we've overcome together & see the good in this life we've built together. I'm asking that you take your hand off the door knob of the fire exit in our marriage & come back to me. Because I'm holding that other exit door to our marriage & I want to know that you want this marriage as bad as I do. I want to know what your heart would feel if everything we worked for fell apart into pieces before your eyes and there was no longer a Jaime Lynn Jones, there was no Mrs. Jones. I want to know that losing me would kill you as much as me losing you would kill me. You need to let me in babe, give me proof that you are still in there under the rubble. Please, just be vulnerable. Sincerely, yours truly.