“Not everyone you lose is a loss.” I remember saying this quote all the time in middle school and high school, and now looking back I know I was so foolish. I was talking about lost friends over stupid petty fights and boys who were immature and dumb. However, now in college, this quote resonates with me more than ever. Losing someone is sad, whether it’s a friend or a significant other. However, when that person leaves your life, ask yourself, “Am I better off without them?” Usually, the answer is yes. That person is now out of your life for a reason. Maybe they were too toxic. Maybe they didn’t have the same mindset as you. It may hurt at first, but in the end, it will be okay. You’ll look back and realize why that person exited your life.
Don’t be afraid to let people go who aren’t doing anything but letting you down. You shouldn’t waste time trying to put up with someone who just doesn’t serve your purpose in life anymore. Life is too short. This lost person can make room for a new, more wonderful person to enter your life. It’s hard to fathom in the town that we live in, but once you go to college, you will meet more kind, genuine, and kind-hearted people than you have ever seen. Never be afraid to open up your heart and mind to anyone who will listen, but choose those people wisely. The more you interact with people, the more you will be able to judge their true characters. Choose wisely -J. Cole