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Us with ADHD know very well what it’s like to constantly have racing thoughts in our heads… and part of that is what gives us creativity and incredible problem-solving abilities… …
How you can handle the overthinking a bit better and not let it hold you hostage in your head most of the time...
Follow me on Twitter and Periscope @MazeCompass I will be live in a few hours on Periscope to talk about employee engagement at work and what makes people feel deflated about their job and live life in the automatic mode in order to cope with it.
Just like kids, the "self" also goes through "awkward" fases through its development. Don't be ashamed of that, it's only natural.
Flavia Cabanne - @mazecompass
The Self-acceptance Misconception
Some people confuse the meaning of self-acceptance between accepting themselves and how that translates into how they relate to others. Let me explain...
Some say "This is just how I am and that's it. If you don’t accept how I am then you don’t accept me.” ---> People say this to defend themselves when they treat someone else poorly. When they treat someone else without the respect of taking into account who THAT other individual is too, and THEIR right to be themselves as they are as well.
If we all treat each other from that kind of place, then we will all always butt heads and excuse our behaviours of disrespect with others.
In order to show someone respect, one must first respect themselves. Lack of respect towards others shows that you have a self-respect issue. So to say “I didn't mean to be disrespectful, I am just being myself” and not taking responsibility for how you treat others, is a clear indication that you don’t truly accept yourself to start with.
People who behave like this are those who are hiding away from aspects of themselves they don’t handle well and they think that this is the correct approach - to pretend it’s not there and be excused for treating others poorly because it’s just who you are.
These are people in denial and people who are scared to admit their flaws, like it’s a bad think not being perfect. NOBODY IS PERFECT. But we do have to be AWARE of our issues so that we can work on them as we go on with life.
Our issues do affect our behaviour. And if you are hurting others because of issues you have, then it is time to start looking at them and how you can be better with other people. Human beings thrive in relating with each other. We were not born to be solitary creatures. If all we do is push people away or rely on other people’s tolerance of our refusal to better ourselves, something is off there.
So true self-acceptance reflects on how you treat other people, on how you are able to look at yourself and take responsibility for what you put out into the world and how you treat others.
If people around you are trying to tell you that you upset them, even if you don’t intend to, it’s time to have a self-awareness check up...that is, if you care about being the best person you can be and living the best life you can live.
TIP: to build self-confidence: start a daily habit of achieving one little task every day and celebrate it - no matter how small or big. 👍👍👍
Flavia Cabanne - @mazecompass
