- Unattachment -
Not being attached to things can be easy in some cases, and the complete opposite in others. What's probably best here is to get a good view of the range of attachments first, then work out what are priorities to try and let go of, and what aren't so much. If you take it to the extreme everything that we attach to can be seen as a type of clinging, which clouds our ability to see things as they truly are, but we're just talking about getting into meditation here and not the other extremes, so being realistic at this stage is a good thing.
But even though you're not just going to be able to, or even want to, drop almost every attachment you have straight away, again, getting a good knowledge of what you're actually attached to will help in a big way. So you have your beliefs about anything and everything, your habits, likes, dislikes, things that you've been taught by the education system and people, and on and on. The range is basically everything that makes you who you are and whatever you take part in doing. Or it could even be good or bad memories that lead you to several types of clinging, craving, aversion, fear, etc.
Once you get a decent idea of how much this actually affects you in almost every way it can be mind boggling. But once you realise and are able to start dropping those attachments as time passes, your idea of who and what you are also changes, and you see that the self you really can be, or whatever you want to be, becomes a much clearer and more real possibility. We don't have to be stuck as who we are or what we currently are, and anything that says otherwise is basically a form of delusion, and if you meditate on it enough, you'll hopefully see the possibilities start opening up for you.
- Metta -
Metta is a pali word that can be translated into various things. It could be kindness, loving-kindness, friendship, good will, and several others. So you could say it's love too, but it doesn't have to be taken as a type of mystical, flowery love that's up in the clouds somewhere, but instead a type of love that just makes you a decent person. Someone that cares for others and that's not self-centered, someone that avoids hating others and that instead tries as hard as possible to understand the problems of the situation of others if that type of emotion is stirred up. Someone that tries their best to be happy about helping others instead of grudgingly doing it and being negative, or that at least tries hard to overcome any of the negative problems if they arise.
Then if you can establish this type of thing, metta, or being a decent person who cares for others, it brings a whole new aspect to your meditation. You're not just sitting there for yourself, but you're also sitting there to improve yourself for others. And if you get into the habit of it, you don't get into so many arguments or other negative situations, but also, because you take the time regularly to try and understand the problems of others, you can also help others a lot more than you previously could. You have an extra perspective on various situations, and it can help people around you when applied properly in many ways.
- Serenity -
Meditating on serenity is to increase your ability to be calm and have peace of mind, feelings and body, which then allows access to so many other states which make meditation better. If your mind is chaotic you're struggling with meditation, restless, anxious, and many other things that basically mess up any type of meditation, so practising bringing serenity to your mind is a great thing to do.
Then if you can do this, the more serene you manage to get, the longer the effects of the meditation usually last once you've finished. It helps your concentration, your awareness, it's almost like you're a different person when you first get into it, because your mind is usually so busy with thoughts flying all over the place, which then filter across to your feelings and body and unsettle everything compared to what it could be. As with many things, it's not easy at times, but the more you're able to bring serenity into your meditation, the better you generally are at meditating as a whole. Finally, the previous meditation of unattachment helps your mind to be clearer and helps with this in a huge way.
You could say the last two meditations equal love and peace, but remember they're not of the mystical flowery fantasy type! You can make them very real with practise and transform who you are.
- Concentration -
Finally near the end.....so yeah, last, but definitely not least. As with many others listed, if you don't have this you're not going to get anywhere. Concentration can be applied to any of the previous 11 for individual meditations, or it can simply be on the breath alone, or whatever else. Some people imagine shapes, colours, look at things when meditating and try to have fixed concentration on them, there's a lot of ways of applying it basically. There's also what's known as insight meditation, and this is to bring something to mind, say the mind itself, and focus only on that aspect for as long as you can. What this can do is bring your deeper mind into the meditation if your level of concentration is good enough, and insights, intuitions, or different levels of understanding what you're focusing on, will arise.
This can often be seen as a more advanced type of meditation, and can be said to be the faculty that brings the answers to the real truths of our reality if done properly, but in order for it to work you have to be relaxed. So this is also why when you start out it's usually best to get used to being able to remove various attachments first, get rid of any tensions, and develop a lasting state of serenity. Then if you can do that, you can then have a lot more chance of insight, or deeper concentration meditation working.
To finish, as I said elsewhere when listing some brief meditation tips, you should constantly be aware of the fact that you don't need to get wound up when your concentration lapses and other thoughts come into your mind. It will happen, and it'll very likely happen a lot. What you do when this happens, once you realise you've lost concentration, is to calmly let go of what you were thinking of and guide your mind back to what you were concentrating on. The more you do this, the more you develop the ability to stay calm, avoid being wound up, and you also develop increasing levels of patience and equanimity.
All 12 things listed here have only been touched on, you could say they're 12 tips of 12 icebergs, and there's so much more to research and understand if you get into meditation. This hasn't been written in the hope that you adopt "The 12 Meditations" and stick to using them. The only purposes have been to help beginners to meditation, and to show how there's several aspects that can work together when used enough, that make meditation something that can adapt to all types of situations, and change your life in many ways. So if this has helped, please go your own way once it's served its purpose, research further, and I hope meditation works out for you if you try it enough.