For all the mums who have just miscarried this is my silver lining
I know it’s hard right now and I’m not going to say that its fate telling you something or any of that crap but one of the only silver linings I have found in having a miscarriage before having my first born isn’t the whole everything happens for a reason bullshit people spout which gave me no solace, it’s the fact that afterwards I was so deeply upset I prayed for a baby so hard and cried at night about how no matter what or how many times my baby would wake me up, poop on me, vomit all over me or scream at me I knew that I would never take it for granted.
I would know that it was still a blessing. Which so many women who haven’t been in our situation fail to recognize.
At that time in my life I hated mums who moaned about their baby’s waking them up as it was nothing compared to waking up without one there. The silver lining I have found is that I truly believe losing my baby has made me a better Mum to my son, a nurturing mum who can get through everything because whenever I sit down exhausted I get a deep feeling of relief that this is why I’m exhausted and it’s far better than being emotionally exhausted without him here.
I’m so so sorry for the awful emotions that you have to get through right now, I know how hard it is to understand how to feel about missing someone you never knew, and missing the fact that you won’t know them. It gets better. I promise.
You are strong, and this will make you stronger and better for all the children you will raise in the future. This will keep you grounded and help you cherish moments others miss. You’ve lost one child but you will cherish your other children more because of this.