#miscecanis pack

[seraph-of-the-gay]

I made a pack w/ my alpha!!

I'm starting a minor only (exception if you turn after joining) pack with my alpha!! You'll be a guest when you first join, after we trust you a bit you'll be given the members role! I'd prefer if you were neurodivergent and/or lgbtq to join for comfort. We have rules that are subject to change so that nothing will happen to make anyone uncomfotable.

PM me for the link!!

[urlocalwerewolfboyfriend]

Losing a packmate is just.......

[pack-the-pack]

Thinking abt making a new pack... But I'm just kind of tired of people not talking, and ghosting the server (still a little puzzled as to why you'd join a server just to not interact in it, but okay).

If anyone shows interest in it, maybe I will. Let me know if you're a lonely person who'd like other people to talk to about A/B/O and just ordinary everyday things.

And ofc, only if you mean it. If you have no interest of actually talking to anyone there please don't get my hopes of making friends up, it would be hurtful and frankly tiering.

Thank you.

[sunshine-omega]

Hi! I hope you're doing well today! I'm a alpha and recently I've sent out a advertisement to start my own pack on a miscecanis discord server. Although now I'm kind of panicking because I haven't seen a lot of content on being a good pack leader 😅 i was wondering if you have seen any posts about such a thing? Or have any advice yourself?

first of all, I’m SO sorry for how long it took me to reply to you. So much burnout from winter term 😅 but I hope things have gone well with your pack-forming!

second, I took a look for other posts about being a pack leader. I know I’ve seen some but they were old and i couldn’t find them :( so instead I put together all my thoughts and asked some friends from a miscecanis discord server. Here’s what I’ve got!

(also disclaimer: I’ve never been in a pack, but I’ve been in plenty of relationships and friend groups, so I’ve had my share of successes and failures with all that to learn from. Hopefully you find this helpful)

How to be a good pack leader

Boundary setting

The big things that come to mind for me are time and dealing with heavy feelings

Work out some boundaries around time. You can’t always be there, so what is reasonable? If people are demanding fast responses from pack members all the time, that’s not healthy and sustainable

You aren’t personally responsible for everyone’s wellbeing

This isn’t just for your well-being, it’s also for the sake of your pack members. When you take on too much emotional burden, it creates tension that affects everyone. Instead, as a pack leader set a precedent for healthy mutual support, coping strategies, boundaries, etc

Facilitation

Talk with your pack about what they would like the leader’s role to be, and what roles they hope to play and to see from the pack

Consider some structure, but don’t make it a hard rule—people have things to do out there

By structure I mean things like daily check ins, weekly activities, scheduled events, etc.

It would also be a good idea to start a conversation about what miscecanis means to the pack and how they want to express that

Omg if I had a pack I'd love to do pack ‘scenting’ time where you say nice things about each other and stuff aaaa

Advice from my server:

On structure: “Not all Packs have a leader or hierarchical structure and don't have to. The Possums don't have any particular order. It should also (in my opinion at least) be laid out on the table if the Pack Leader thing is gonna be a role they always have or is something voted on, inherited, etc. And how the order is going to be established (dynamic? Age? Etc?). It's also important to remind them that a Pack is a community, so if things get hard you don't have to be a Leader all the time, everyone takes care of each other no matter what. A leader should also make sure everyone's voice is heard. Pack expectations might be good to set out from the get-go to so everyone can be honest with their feelings and needs. A Misce thing to add might be deciding on 1 particular thing as a 'Pack Scent'. For example, everyone has their own scent of course but it also has this specific herb scent involved bc they're in that Pack.”

On activities: "We've talked about doing mystery game nights together, and playing TTRPGs at some point (cries in scheduling shdkwsja). Most of what we do is chatting. We talk about life, joke about each other (few of us can cook, some of use don't care...one of us is legally not allowed near an oven.), we talk about what a Pack House would be like, we have a billion channels and somehow use all of them lol, we talk about how much we wish we could make food for each other (we talk about food a lot don't we;;), we love rambling about our interests/fixations, we love hearing about each other's interests/fixations, we share playlists we've made just to each other, anything just to kind of have an excuse to talk and virtually be around each other. The most important thing about being a Pack is that you feel happy and contented even just to be if that makes sense, lol, at least to me."

~ @omegaverse-dollhouse

“Most people I've seen who implement a pack hierarchy don't have Just One Leader- they'll have the pack head, head alpha, head omega, head beta (less common but does exist), and/or some sort of second in command, as well as other roles depending on the pack. Just one person taking on all the responsibilities of a pack can be overwhelming!”

~@miscellaneous-miscecanis

I really hope your pack forming goes well!

[shyomegaboy]

I wanna join a pack so bad 😔

[omega-loves]

Kind of want a pack...kind of suck at emotional closeness

[nestingomega]

Credit : @miscecrisis

[sunshine-omega]

Packs are fun because most of our pack doesn't really do miscecanis stuff, but they're still. Pack.

Like, initially I was like "oh the micule, nice" but Pack is also the friends. The people who are Ours even if they aren't in a relationship with us. It's just. Neat. I like having a word for it.

They're Pack.

(-Omega of @wolfpups-alphaandomega (it's a sideblog so we can't send asks from there :( ))

Yeah right!! My mate and I don’t have a Pack in the miscecanis sense of the word, but I feel so lucky to have close pods of friends. I honestly didn’t have that for most of my life, and now I have some groups of friends and they’re so special to me.

At one point last year multiple people in our friend group were looking for new apartments at the same time, and there were openings on our floor of the apartment building!! Unfortunately our friends never got in, but it was pretty great imagining having all of the friends together on the same floor. Soooo close to a pack house situation :,)