CW: brief misogynistic language
Typed out a big long fat post about how viscerally bothered I get when someone says "oh, moms are nothing special, any woman can just spread her legs and get knocked up if she wants"
not because having a child makes you some kind of superior being that is the end all and be all of womanhood, but because it completely denies my situation, wherein I'm pretty sure I couldn't find a man willing to have sex with me if I tried. I'm not joking, I've never been asked on a date or even told I look beautiful.
It's a true statement, and I'm sure sometimes it needs to be said.
But as someone who already has trouble feeling womanly (as opposed to just feminine), it's a stinging reminder that I've failed at even the basest task of societal womanhood; to stoke the appetites of cishet men.