How do I politely tell someone that they're bringing me down? It's just like, I know they have issues and I dont blame them for not being in a very good place mentally, but because of their poor mental health they comment on almost everything I post/say with "sorry" because they interpret every single thing as saying they're doing something wrong. Again I dont blame them but it significantly worsens my day when they do this, how do i tell them this without making them go into a self hate spiral?
You could try and sit down and have a talk with them. Whether it’s face to face, text, call, or whatever just to sit down and talk. I deal with this issue to, saying sorry about almost everything because I too think it’s my fault, and it’s usually a habit because of how they were raised/who they are around (I’m not trying to apply this to your friend, I’m just using my personal experience). At least in my case, they may need reassurance like “hey. You aren’t doing anything wrong, you don’t have to apologize.” It may be good to set some boundaries, you could tell them that you still care for them and you still want to be there for them but how you may want to have a bit of time to yourself. Because before you can take care of others you have to take care of yourself. Sorry I’m not sure how much this helps but I hope it does.
