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[acespectips]

Hi, I'm 14 almost 15 and I've been questioning if I'm ace or not. I actually didn't really understand that people were sexually attracted to people at all. But idk if I'm a late bloomer, or since the last "crush" I had was more than a year ago. Also, I was wondering how common platonic relationships are? Like I want to be in a relationship with a friend but not a romantic one, due to me being lithromantic and grayromantic. Ty!

Hi Anon!

May I interest you in queerplatonic relationships? You can read more about them by searching the term on Google.

And if they're not of your interest that's alright. Platonic relationships are really, and I mean REALLY, common. Since it's the attraction that you have when you're close to someone, but not necessarily romantically or sexually. Say, if you have friends, you experience platonic attraction.

Platonic relationships can be as deep as romantic/sexual ones.

And about the thing of you being ace, well I never identified as ace, I've been a pan since I was 12-13. So you might be ace(-spec), but I'm not you to tell ya about that.

Have a nice day ! 💜

[acespectips]

is it sexual attraction to want to have sex with someone just to make them feel good? like the hot thing about it is them feeling nice and all. this a weird question but-

Hi Anon!

Mmm tricky question. But I'd say it isn't. Some aces do that and they're still ace.

It's like "I'll have sex with you, but because I love you and I want to make you feel good", yes? Then it shouldn't be sex. attraction :)

Have a good day/night and happy new year! 🎉💜

[acespectips]

This may be a really dumb question, but what does sex repulsion feel like? I'm not sure whether I experience it or not.

Hi Anon!

It isn't a dumb question, it's actually good to be confused and asks.

Since I don't experience sex repulsion but romance repulsion (sometimes), I'll compare it to that. It might not be the same situations, but it is a way to help you.

See, when I'm watching a movie (or whatever that has a story) and the MC has a love interest in less than 20 minutes, it cause me to sigh, want to stop watching it and throw a whole ass discourse as to why the movie is bad. But why? Because 1) I'm tired of love being used for marketing and as a way to sell more, making the story rely ONLY on that; 2) C'mon nobody falls in love so quickly, and 3) I want to punch the MC, their love interest and the people who made this horrid thing.

And in my normal life, when I see people cuddle and being overly romantic, I wanna tell them to stop, look away, go home and wash my eyes with soap.

Now replace the romance stuff with sex.

... See? It's similar, just different types or repulsion. If you feel all of this you might have sex aversion/repulsion.

Yes, you can experience repulsion only when seeing it irl but not in fiction and viceversa. Or in both too why not.

Hope I helped you :)

Have a good day/night!

[acespectips]

So I'm ace and when I read or write erotic stories I get this incredible zingy feeling in the tips of my fingers and it feels *amazing* but I have absolutely no desire to do anything beyond just bask in the way my fingertips are fizzing with electricity, and I'm wondering if this is at all comparable to what sexual attraction feels like.

Hi Anon ;)

This what you're describing is arousal, it's a normal feeling we get when seeing sexy stuff. You can say that it is comparable to sexual attraction, but not the same. It's alright though, you're as ace as an ace symbol.

Have a nice day!

[acespectips]

sometimes I get a tingly ish feeling when I see a really pretty person and stuff, but I definitely don’t want to Do Stuff with them, so I suppose the attraction isn’t sexual? But idk what it is and it’s stressing me out.

Hi Anon!

Sexual attraction is when you wanna do That™ to a person, you are attracted to them physically.

If you don't wanna do stuff with them but think they're beautiful, then it's probably aesthetic attraction.

Have a nice day! ;)

[acespectips]

Why do people see butts as sexual?? What is so attractive about a fucking ass?????? I’m???? Why do people stare????????? Apparently?????? I don’t understand??????!?!????

Hi Anon c:

Saying this as an alloaro myself, I don't understand why do people sexualize them either :|

Maybe because it's something that we aren't supposed to touch because it's inappropriate, then The Allos'™ mind's go "heehee 😎 dat ass mine" (or things that they say idk), and because it's near the genitals so it's also seen as a way to get to That spot. Whatever I don't claim these allosex.

But anyways, ass is just muscles in a circular shape. I don't see what's the deal with them.

Have a nice day :P 💜

[acespectips]

Hello! I’ve been listening to a lot of podcasts recently, and I’ve found that some of their voices make me go all tingly. Like “ho-oly s**t. Wow”. It’s never like, “wow, I want to frick/be fricked by someone with that voice”, but my physical response does end up being similar to how people who experience sexual attraction describe it. I think it’s more like the auditory equivalent of biting into some really good food and groaning at that, but I still worry, “what if I’m not actually asexual”.

Hi Anon!

It's alright Anon, you're still asexual :D! What you're describing isn't necessarily sexual attraction, it sounds more like the response to listening to a voice like that.

Since you compare it to food, you may only like the taste of it but not the food itself. Same with the voice, you like the voice but not the person (I mean sexually).

As a plus, in my daily life I listen to a lot of voices and there are some of them that make me go like that, but I don't wanna do the yee-yee dance to em, just listen to their voice.

Have a splendid day or night c:

[acespectips]

i think i may be gray-ace? i had a lot of intrusive thoughts about sex as a little kid but as my ocd has gotten better i don’t really think about that stuff. it could also be dysphoria rearing its head but idk. the idea that someone may be sexually attracted to me is kinda disgusting. but maybe not all the time? it’s difficult to get perspective. i have no idea. anyway.

Hello Anon :D

First of all: sorry for the late answer.

It's a fact that a lot of ace people are also trans, so your negative thoughts about sex could come from your dysphoria.

By this only ask I can say that you can be gray-ace or similar to that. But if you wanna, you can look for other labels and see what fits.

Hope you have a nice day, and if anything else happens to your labels and your confusion, feel free to come back 🖤