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My [26F] boyfriend [31M] defaulted stopped paying rent without telling me
Before he officially moved in he said he would pay half of rent and utilities but then when we moved as actually moved in he didn’t pay anything for months until I brought it up. After that he had been sending over his share ($200) for months without prompting up until October when he suddenly stopped. At the time, I thought he had just forgotten and didn’t bring it up. The months started to go by without any money sent my way and it finally came to a head this past Tuesday.
We had been talking about finances and he was telling me how he only had his car note and students loans left to pay off. I looked at him and asked what happened with his share of the rent he was supposed to be sending me. He looked sheepish and admitted that back in October, his dad had told him that his parent-plus loan was in default and he (my boyfriend) needed to take of it. My boyfriend then proceeded to say that he had made the decision to forego contributing towards rent and focus on his defaulted student loans, all without telling me.
Him not telling has been really eating me up inside. He apologized and said that he had been worried about talking to me about it at the time and when I asked why he hadn’t told me in the months between he said it had genuinely slipped his mind. I don’t really know what to do or how to proceed with him. I tried telling him he had to move out but he kept saying it was one mistake and he would do anything to regain my trust. I don’t know how to get past this, I feel like he would’ve kept mooching off me indefinitely had I not brought it up but he says he was planning on telling me (and paying me back) in February. I’m really struggling on how I move past this as it’s not the first time he’s taken advantage of me financially. Does anyone have any advice or has been in his shoes and could offer insight?
Don't live with this man. Don't have children with this man. Don't expect much if you stay with this man.
You also have your own communication issues you should work on, though, tbh. There is a difference between giving someone the benefit of the doubt and just avoiding a difficult conversation.
If your strategy for frugal living is saving money by mooching off your generous friends... you're doing it wrong. Don't be a frugal mooch!
Are You a Frugal Mooch?: Mooching Off Friends Is Not a Valid Savings Strategy
Sometimes, the quest for frugality can drive us to do ugly things. One of those things is mooching.
You probably know some mooches in your life. I know I do! In every social group, there’s That One Guy who comes to every party, eats and drinks as though he’s storing up for a long winter’s hibernation, and never offers to bring anything or chip in. He begs rides and never offers gas money. If you do him a favor, you’re extremely unlikely to be thanked with a kind word, a gift, or a return favor in the future.
On the other hand, in the rare instances where That One Guy actually orders a pizza for the group, out comes the calculator. He’ll send you a dead-serious Venmo request for $2.40 for your 1/8 of the pie. And no, he did NOT forget to factor in the tip, sales tax, or delivery fee.
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Sometimes, the quest for frugality can drive us to do ugly things. One of those things is mooching. You probably know some mooches in your life. I know I do! In every social group, there’s That One Guy who comes to every party, eats and drinks as though he’s storing up for a long winter’s …
